Has LS ed you or hurt you with your troubles?

[findingnemo]

Has LS helped you or hurt you with your troubles?

 

This site has helped me out a lot but I've seen a post by "CaliGuy" where he said he was never coming back because he wanted to be in a place where he didn't need LS's help anymore.

 

What do you guys think?

 

LS has helped me a lot. I check out sometimes when I'm overwhelmed by some posters views. It's not the trolls that make me take a break. It's the many posters who many times understand more about my sitch than I do and explain what is going on for me. Sometimes it can be painful but it is always helpful.

 

I'm a talker. I need to talk through my issues and never was comfortable telling my friends IRL all the details. With LS, I'm now able to come here and say whatever I want and leave it at that. I also learned here that so many people share the same problem and have different approaches to dealing with them. LS can change your thinking.

 

Any bad experiences? Not really. Tonight I made my first sarcarstic remark to someone who thinks he's a player and has taken it upon himself to insult all women on this site. Otherwise, it's been great for me. I'm a bit addicted at this point and need to cut back a bit.

[cerridwen]

Sweetheart, you are my pride and joy as well. My heaven too.

 

Hope to be your Forever, forever :love:

 

I hope so too so you can be Forever Frisky.

As if you aren't already, my dear.

 

OP, LS was helpful for getting over my breakup.

The member OhPenelope was especially inspiring and supportive.

I leaned on CaliGuy's guide as well, reading if more than once.

 

And LS also given the unexpected gift of friendships that have moved from virtual to real life.

It's been incredibly enriching and I love seeing others experience the same.

So, consider sticking around past the mourning stage, and moving to other forums for interaction.

Some wonderful people live here.

[smokey bear]

It helped me...

 

1) learning about nc

 

2) learning about gigs and rebounds, it gives some kind of explanation to people who are left with no explanation

 

3) I didnt sicken my friends constant talking about him, i came on here

 

4) I learned from ls to feel the pain, the only way to get over it is to go through it, not avoid it, ignore it or bottle it

 

5) When i hit a brick wall with healing it moved me forward

 

6) Cheaper than a therapist

 

7) its really good to hear others are going through it too.

 

8) Reading posts trigger certain emotions, gets it all out and make u realise things u wouldnt have on your own. And get moments of clarity.

 

9) Passes the day a lot quicker than crying, moping. Also all the reading makes u tired enough to sleep.

 

It has its bad points too, but its a haven to sink back to in times of darkness. ive been on here 4 months and only first posted today. It has helped, i dont know if posting would have helped sooner but i dont think it would because even though we get all the advice we dont listen and do what we want anyway lol.

 

It helped me and i think i will return here a lot in life to even assist with relationship guidance when i start a new relationship xx

[TheJiltedGeneration]

this site has helped me alot.. without question.. it kind of opened my eyes to alot of lessons, hardships of others and the like, as well as asserted to me how breaking NC for the ex I was with.. really isnt worth it. this is mainly from the stories alot of NC breakers have had from returning to their ex's and discovering that it makes things ALOT Worse than when they started, as well as knowing the "comfort" of having to start the nc from square one...

 

a month on this site and I've also had some sage advice from some really decent people who've really had some horrible despicable ex's.. and I kind of feel unified with them in how to cope with our loses...in the fact that each of our losses have caused inexorable pain with us all and how we are all beginning to realize how our ex's are so not worth it. The advice may sometimes be stuff you already know.. but sometimes you need clarity to see a way forward for yourself.. and clarity that NC is the right choice.. I may be on her alot "moaning" away on my post, but I am really thankful for everyone who listens to my little winey sessions are able to stick with me despite the fact that my emotions are so stubborn..

[radiodarcy]

It's been a valuable resource to assist in both establishing healthier boundaries as well as picking more compatible people to invest in. I really see the benefits in the circle of friends I've migrated to as a result.

 

Also, reading others perspectives has helped me make a lot of sense about confusing parts of my past marriage and facilitated more complete closure.

 

So, I'd say it's been a positive for me even though I've never really brought my 'problems' here in an active way.

 

i feel the same way about LS for the reasons outlined above.

 

i was brought here my a specific situation i had been going through. which - - had it not been for CaliGuy's NC guide and the invaluable advice i had received here - - i would probably still be immersed in.

 

it really did help to read about other people's situations and know that i wasn't the only one going through the same emotions. particularly when so many of my family and friends were telling me to "get over it already"

 

i have found this to be a safe, supportive forum to express my feelings and help others in the process.

 

i'm pretty much over the ex but i still like to come here to check up on people and to offer advice and support in the hopes that it will benefit others then way the advice on this forum has benefited me.

[johan]

I dunno. You have a pretty high body count left behind.

 

Nice bodies though.