hurtingandconfused Posted May 19, 2004 Posted May 19, 2004 I got a new job..been there for about a month. There is this girl that works there...she is always talking to me...I know she's interested. Here's the thing. She's cute, but not my type. I have not been with a girl since my break up in early january. Sex comes through my mind when I see this girl...and only sex. However I feel as if I do get intimate with this girl I will lower my self esteem...because I am better than this. I want the next girl to be special as my ex once was. I do not care for this girl and I do not want to hurt her if she does fall me for. I do not want to tell her that if we do get together it is only for sex..because that's scanless.
tattoomytoe Posted May 19, 2004 Posted May 19, 2004 then do not go there, tell her you are just starting to see some new person, cause it does her no good to tell you only want to have sex with her because you haven't in a while...but are not really interested in her.
HokeyReligions Posted May 19, 2004 Posted May 19, 2004 um -- don't get involved with someone you work with. tell her that you don't get involved with people you work with, and leave it at that.
faux Posted May 19, 2004 Posted May 19, 2004 Originally posted by HokeyReligions um -- don't get involved with someone you work with. tell her that you don't get involved with people you work with, and leave it at that. I agree with this completely. Of course, I continually see people trying to get together who work together. It always brings problems. It might seem easier to get together with someone you work with, as the environment is familiar, and the staff tends to know one another in most situations. However, I have never seen it do any good, especially after break-ups or cheap hook-ups. I kind of get creeped out when people I work with get interested. Even if I reciprocate, I just can't do it. Did it once, horrible mistake. As for just thinking about sex with this girl: Do not do anything with her unless you are interested in more than that. You do not have to tell her you are interested in her, but only for sex. You can just say "This is a bad time for me.", "I am not interested in that way." OH yes... "WE WORK TOGETHER, ARE YOU NUTS?" also works quite well
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