MrSimple Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 So yea, we went into a time-out for about 2 weeks alr, because she wants to try something with this "new guy" she met. I've sent the "peace" letter and entered NC for now. Lately she has been trying to contact me for help finding things, but I've been refusing to pick up those calls or replying to her. It hurts, but it is probably the best way for now. I'm wondering now, is that a good way to go about it? Disappearing off her radar will probably mean that guy has more chances to cosy up to her and drive me out, but always being there means she will continue to treat me as a "cushion", and no way am I going to be reduced to a "cushion". It's like teaching her in the hard way, and people always learn best the hard way. I'm hoping this will work and she will wake up to the fact that I am much more than just a "cushion". Hoping to seek advice from you guys, thank you!
smudge21 Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 So she's left you for someone else and is seeing him now (I trust "try things" means exactly what I think it means)? So it's over then? The relationship is done and you owe her nothing. Just stay NC and if she cares then yeah, she'll miss you, but whether it will be enough to bring her back is anyones guess. You are right though that you will be a cushion or comfort pillow should you hang around and you've made that clear that's not what you want, nor do you want to be her friend either. Good luck and stay strong.
Author MrSimple Posted October 26, 2011 Author Posted October 26, 2011 Smudge: Thanks for the encouragement! I'll stick to it for now.
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