headsashed Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 im having a bad start to my day so i thought id post on here. I wasnt too bad yesterday so i dont know why today,well i think its because i havent heard from her. Ive stuck to NC but she did txt at times which i supppose gave me the ego boost,but soon as i dont hear from her it seems to hit me. Plus i dreamt about her yet again last night which hasnt helped and now i cant get her out of my head. It feels like shes just wiped 2 years away just like that. Maybe im just having an off day,i dunno,im tempted to txt her but i wont,ive stopped myself recently so ill do it again today.
mike588 Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 im having a bad start to my day so i thought id post on here. I wasnt too bad yesterday so i dont know why today,well i think its because i havent heard from her. Ive stuck to NC but she did txt at times which i supppose gave me the ego boost,but soon as i dont hear from her it seems to hit me. Plus i dreamt about her yet again last night which hasnt helped and now i cant get her out of my head. It feels like shes just wiped 2 years away just like that. Maybe im just having an off day,i dunno,im tempted to txt her but i wont,ive stopped myself recently so ill do it again today. Don't do it.I had a real bad day a few days ago too and came so very close to emailing her because I just wanted to hear from her but now I'm so glad I didn't!! I know how you must feel after hearing from her then nothing,, I haven't heard anything from my ex. in 2 1/2 months and I've so wanted to but then again I would like you. Stay strong!
geegirl Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 (edited) I believe I mentioned this to you before H. There is going to come a time when the texts/calls lessen because she is detaching as well and when that happens the finality will sink in for you. You didn't feel it then because she had a lifeline to you and yes, your ego was taking over and you felt secure that she was still in the picture. Now that she is detaching you're going to feel the effects of it. NC gets worse before it gets better. This is what I mean. When she detaches completely, that is when you will have to fight twice as hard to stay the course. Unfortunately, the work starts when the finality of it all starts to dawn on you. You want to text her because you are in panic mode that she is slipping away. You want to jolt her back. Go ahead and do it if you want to go through the same BS again. The definition of insanity is repeating the same thing and expecting different results. Bite the bullet, stay the course and suffer this temporary pain. Contact and keep yourself stuck in hurt and confusion indefinitely. If she is detaching, release her. It's the best thing you can do for yourself. Edited October 26, 2011 by geegirl
Author headsashed Posted October 26, 2011 Author Posted October 26, 2011 im not going to contact her in anyway of form,she is probably is slipping away from me,and so be it,ive done my fighting weeks ago,i dont have the energy to do so anymore,its her loss anyway. Good news is: ive spoke to my parents today and they are going to help me out financially to get a new home,1 away from here,so ive been searching and ringing all day but no luck as of yet,i think a fresh start away from here is really what i need,and i WONT tell her where i live or even that im moving.
fenderjames Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 Hi h . Ive read a few of ur posts and I like what u have to say . I too am 21/2 months in NC and yes its a rough go . I move in January and I too am not telling her ( not that she'd care ) . Anyway just wanted to say hey and stay strong bro . I hope your future pans out bright and pack many new opportunities . Cheers .
Author headsashed Posted October 26, 2011 Author Posted October 26, 2011 Hi h . Ive read a few of ur posts and I like what u have to say . I too am 21/2 months in NC and yes its a rough go . I move in January and I too am not telling her ( not that she'd care ) . Anyway just wanted to say hey and stay strong bro . I hope your future pans out bright and pack many new opportunities . Cheers . Same to you pal,the future is what we make it,and boy am i going to try make mine amazing,my ex probably doesnt give a crap if we dont talk again or if i move,her loss anyway,but in my head i need a fresh start because i live 2 mins from her and even this place where i live now is full of memories of us both,that actually hurts me,even 6 weeks into the BU,We did everything together locally so u can imagine that everything i do is a constant reminder of me and her,i dont want to keep suffering like this and i just think moving away,just to a different village is the perfect way to start a new life.
geegirl Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 im not going to contact her in anyway of form,she is probably is slipping away from me,and so be it,ive done my fighting weeks ago,i dont have the energy to do so anymore,its her loss anyway. Good news is: ive spoke to my parents today and they are going to help me out financially to get a new home,1 away from here,so ive been searching and ringing all day but no luck as of yet,i think a fresh start away from here is really what i need,and i WONT tell her where i live or even that im moving. Awesome! Great strides. I am happy for you and also proud of you for being so proactive. And good for you for not wanting to tell her where you are moving to H. Looking back at your old posts, I think you've come a long way!
Author headsashed Posted October 26, 2011 Author Posted October 26, 2011 I think ive come a long way too,even doing 1 day of NC is hard but i do it,and i do it 1 day at a time,ive not fallen to any of her texts either,some have been nice,some nasty but i stood my ground,yes it hurt but i took it like a man,well my front was a man,inside i was like a child lol. Im getting a phone call tomorrow from someone about an house about 3 miles from where i live,which is good and not too far from my family and friends. This time its 1 step forward and ZERO back.
Bobby289 Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 I think ive come a long way too,even doing 1 day of NC is hard but i do it,and i do it 1 day at a time,ive not fallen to any of her texts either,some have been nice,some nasty but i stood my ground,yes it hurt but i took it like a man,well my front was a man,inside i was like a child lol. I envy that, I feel like I am a few steps behind you in the healing process so its good to read how you are doing man.
Author headsashed Posted October 26, 2011 Author Posted October 26, 2011 I failed on 1 thing today though so dont envy me too much,im going to look at a few places tomorrow and no doubt im going to take 1 so ive told a few friends because im excited lol,funnny though how quick the word gets around isnt it,bare in mind i do live in a small village,my ex txt me about an our ago asking where i am moving to and will i tell her,she even put a kiss on the end,which isnt like her recently,tbh i cba to reply to her because she's well,lets just say STRANGE,im in a good mood now because of tomorrow,i just hope it goes well and i can move within the next week or 2 and finally start a fresh..So whos coming to my house wrming party? your all invited :bunny:
Author headsashed Posted October 27, 2011 Author Posted October 27, 2011 Well i just had that phone call about 2 possible places to move to,im going to view them tomorrow or saturday woohoo,im all excited lol,and ur all invited to my house warming party haha,so get your plane tickets sorted if you dont live in the uk
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