Jaina19 Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 I've just had my birthday, and last year my ex took me on holiday for it. I felt a strange negative emotion the day before, and when I found the photos and looked at them. (They are now put someplace I won't come across them) I can't work out what it is or why. I know I definitely don't want him back, and in my mind I'm fine with never speaking to him again. We haven't spoken for a few months, and he didn't even wish me happy birthday, like I thought he might for some reason. I don't know what it is, maybe that it ended with so much bitterness that I wish it had ended better. This is my first long term break up and I still struggle sometimes to deal with feelings I can't identify. We broke up almost 7 months ago and I have a wonderful new relationship I'm very happy in, so I shouldn't really feel anything about him anymore? It is normal to still have feelings attached to your ex? Just feeling really confused at the moment.
toosoft Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 I dont think feelings totally go, but you have to stop looking at old photo's! Its just a trigger for all this. You said your in a new relationship now that is going well...?? Dont let the past effect the present or future. Easy said I know. Try to concentrate on the negative aspects of your relationship and why it came to a close... if your only remembering good times, you'll be suffering with nostalgia
Author Jaina19 Posted October 26, 2011 Author Posted October 26, 2011 Thanks toosoft. I know I have to stop looking at old photos, it is just painful at the moment I thought I would be strong enough to look at them now but apparently not. I suppose I am feeling nostalgia, I don't miss him loads, but wish we could still talk I guess. I'll try and remember all the negative when I think of him and why we broke up. My new relationship is going extremely well my boyfriend has been very supportive in listening to my feelings but I don't want to burden him with this as I feel it's not fair.
toosoft Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 I dont have physical photographs, only digital ones. I put all pics of me and W on a separate drive and deleted them off main computer, also off facebook etc... I dont want any reminders, its onward and upward for me!
TheVSilent Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 I feel your pain, me and my ex ended on such a horrible note. We may not have been right for each other, I just wish it ended better, I wish I could talk to her everyday.
Author Jaina19 Posted October 26, 2011 Author Posted October 26, 2011 toosoft, I deleted them off the computer but couldn't delete them fully, not sure why I want to keep them. I've only just deleted him from facebook and his number off my phone... finally realised there's not a chance of us being friends, so why have him as a friend on fb. Hopefully I can move on quicker not seeing his face pop up on facebook every so often TheVSilent, I know exactly what you mean. It's so much more painful as you can't even look at the memories of good times without remembering the pain. I used to want to talk to my ex everyday, but until recently hadn't thought of him for a couple of months. Hope it gets better for you
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