Iheartme Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 I recently went through a divorce. My husband is a contractor, we have no kids. when we started dating, I had a feeling that he had a lot of extra curricular activities but he wooed me so much that I'd forget all the hurt he's causing me. 2 years ago, he filed for divorce AND I DIDN'T PUT UP A FIGHT. I gave him what he wanted because I had a feeling that I would catch him doing something really really awful. When it was time to discuss the division of our assets, I still obliged to everything that he wanted. Then we talked, he asked why am I not putting up a fight. Why is everything ok for me when it's not supposed to be. I simply told him, you courted me (yes for 3 months before we were officially a couple), you asked me to marry you and now you want a divorce. It's like you wasted your time with me and I don't want to do that. That's how much I love you, I don't want to keep you from the things you want to do. And then I told him I found a place near my parent's about 21 miles from where we are now, and I could start over again. I wasn't boring mind you, I tried giving him surprises but he gave me the cold shoulder. I gave him his freedom, I wasn't a nagger, I just let him be a man. I didn't do all the cliche wife attitude, I strongly opposed to it. I was hurting for months before he finally said that he wanted a divorce, but I kept mum until he brought it up. Now he's calling me everyday and I think he wants to get back together. But I don't. It's like he said "Ok I want to experience life without you" then he pushes me aside and files for divorce then "I think I still love you" I'm not a toy, sorry.
toosoft Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 He's realised he's dropped a clanger! Def sounds like he's trying to get back with you. But, we always want what we can't have. If you gave him a decent chance and he blew it... then... ?? I wish my wife had been as chilled as you sound!
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