vanek26 Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 Hey everyone. I've spent a lot of time and energy on online dating sites, but have had minimal success. Everyone kept saying that I should just go meet women the "real way" at bars and clubs. Finally, I decided to give it a go. I went out last wednesday, thursday, friday, and saturday to different bars and nightclubs. It's a small sample size, but I'd still say I have a lot of work to do. The bar seems to be more difficult than the club because there's less of a reason to approach women. My friends and I managed to strike up chats with a few different women but many of them were very hostile. I did have an extended chat with one girl which led to getting her phone number. I texted her the next evening and once I identified who I was, she immediately stopped responding to me. At the club it's much easier to approach women, as all you have to do is ask them to dance. It's amazing how these girls have no problem with you jamming your junk into their rear. However, you have to deal with a lot of obstacles in this setting. The worst, I've found, are cockblocking friends. Girls' friends are always incredibly hostile towards a guy trying to hit on someone in their group. Over the course of the nights I went out, I made out with more girls than I can even remember. I also got three phone numbers out of the deal, but all three of them gave me the same treatment that the bar girl did. No responses. So I have to wonder, what's going on here? Do I need to go for it all on the night that I meet girls at these places because I'll never get another shot? Women... I tell ya
joystickd Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 I wouldnt do bars and nightclubs. The best time is during the day in my opinion. Its more relaxed to meet someone while at the bookstore or grocery shopping. I bet the women you meet at the nightclub would have given you a different reaction if you met them at a bookstore or the mall.
betterdeal Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 Contact them next week, earlier in the day, but on the day before or the same day you met (e.g. the next Wednesday or Thursday if you clicked on Thursday). Likelihood is they are frisky on that day of the week. The next day, they'll have a hangover. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GD8AFbD2mmE
alphamale Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 bars/nightclubs are the WORST places to meet chicks...
Emilia Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 Likelihood is they are frisky on that day of the week. The next day, they'll have a hangover. Alcohol gives you bad advice, that includes the women too. The best (and hardest) way to meet women is through widening your social circle - though that will depend on your interests. The club scene is only good for one night stands. Most people change their mind once sober for one reason or another.
riverman Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 Expand your socail circle is a great way,I also feel that it's best to try all ways . It's like trying to find a job in many ways.
betterdeal Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 Alcohol gives you bad advice, that includes the women too. The best (and hardest) way to meet women is through widening your social circle - though that will depend on your interests. The club scene is only good for one night stands. Most people change their mind once sober for one reason or another. Depends on what you're looking for. If you want to hook up with someone and go from there, clubs are fine for that.
alphamale Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 Alcohol gives you bad advice, that includes the women too. The best (and hardest) way to meet women is through widening your social circle - though that will depend on your interests. The club scene is only good for one night stands. Most people change their mind once sober for one reason or another. good advice
Cypress25 Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 Girls' friends are always incredibly hostile towards a guy trying to hit on someone in their group. They're just being protective. Many bar guys are creepy, so girls have to look out for each other. That's why it's best to travel with a wingman. I also got three phone numbers out of the deal, but all three of them gave me the same treatment that the bar girl did. No responses. People do things when they're drunk that they wouldn't do when they're sober. Girl gets drunk at a club, gives her number to some random guy. Girl goes home, sobers up, and deletes random guy's number. Bars and clubs are terrible places to meet people, for this very reason. You're meeting girls who are not in their right mind.
insertnamehere Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 Dirty little truth about the girls at the club: the majority of them are there with their friends to have a good time. They use you as a dance partner and then they leave without you. They get sexual validation without feeling like they got played. Have fun with this plan.
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