Livelovelearn Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 Hey Everyone, So my first love, who broke up with me almost two years ago called me couple nights ago at 1 47 am. I had my phone on silent and when I woke up I seen the missed call. I felt so sick to my stomach. Now background about me and him, we dated for three years..last year was the worst for us he was going through things and ended up getting into another relationship while being with me. Then he dumped me and we had few contact on and off. I havent talked to him in two months as we had a falling out and he did not respond to my message. Now this call was on thursday and I didnt call him back..Did i do the right thing? and prior to this i wasnt thinking about him but now i am...help..
LSgirl Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 noooo don't call him! calling at almost 2 in the morning, you don't know what he was thinking and he may not call again, but I would leave it at that.
Author Livelovelearn Posted October 26, 2011 Author Posted October 26, 2011 (edited) Thanks for the reply MizHoney and LSgirl, basically i convinced myself that he either was lonely , horny (based on the time) or accidently dialed my number and since he did not leave a message it was not an emergency. So i didnt think it was appropriate to call back, thanks for reassuring me. I do not know if he will call back but I do wonder about it and he has reappeared in my mind....also i have deactivated my fb and i went back on it to get a picture and noticed he, after a long time having his page deactivated, reactivated his fb ...im thinking maybe he was wondering where i had went...but i rather stay off his radar Edited October 26, 2011 by Livelovelearn
lovebug1991 Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 You most defiantly did the right thing by not calling back. He probably called you while he was drinking or something but shows that he is thinking about you and obviously still cares about you (either in a friend way or romantic way). Leave it up to him to call you again. When you talk to him next you can ask him what that was about, but let him come to you not vise-versa. In the meantime do things for yourself. Maybe get yourself out there and hang out with other guys to get your mind off him.
Author Livelovelearn Posted October 26, 2011 Author Posted October 26, 2011 (edited) Thanks lovebug, I also thought that drinking or even smoking was a reason as to why he called me...and i do think he cares..he reached out to me back in a may close to his birthday and when i didnt wish him a happy bday...he was saddened by it which was odd to me ..im not important to him y did he care...but he was very regretful about things he had done, i also learned he had a new gf so i made sure to keep our conversations appropriate...then he came to see me one night and told me that he broke up with that girl cuz it was wasting his time...yet he keeps coming in and out of my life...wouldnt u think thatd be wasting his time too? your right ill let him come to me but i sure wont wait on it..resume my life as it had been Edited October 26, 2011 by Livelovelearn
Kamila Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 Hey Everyone, So my first love, who broke up with me almost two years ago called me couple nights ago at 1 47 am. I had my phone on silent and when I woke up I seen the missed call. I felt so sick to my stomach. Now background about me and him, we dated for three years..last year was the worst for us he was going through things and ended up getting into another relationship while being with me. Then he dumped me and we had few contact on and off. I havent talked to him in two months as we had a falling out and he did not respond to my message. Now this call was on thursday and I didnt call him back..Did i do the right thing? and prior to this i wasnt thinking about him but now i am...help.. He called you at 1 47 am ? Maybe he was drunk, or he was lying in bed and felt very lonely, or or ... He should have known you could be asleep at 1 47 am. Why didn't he call later in the morning ? Because it would be too confrontational for him.
immitable Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 You most defiantly did the right thing by not calling back. He probably called you while he was drinking or something but shows that he is thinking about you and obviously still cares about you (either in a friend way or romantic way). Leave it up to him to call you again. I agree with the above!
Zabs Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 Aww babes.. I been through similar...lots of times with my ex...and he is STILL not completely outof my life. My sitch is too complicated to go into..but I do know this... He misses you He wonders wTF he did and what a Di** he is He obviously has no spine to talk to you at a time when you can respond properly...as most of us do not converse effectively in the early am...so he is being very cowardly in trying to achieve a result He wants you to run He is ensuring if you do have anyone in your bed..he won't be for long..what bf is going to like early am calls from an ex? It WASN'T an accident He WILL call again..they always do why not reply I hear you holler...because you will defeat any objective you have for preservation of your self...because it is an ego boost for him...because he will think he can keep you dangling...do you want this to go on on on on and on? Consider, my friend Zabs xx
Author Livelovelearn Posted October 27, 2011 Author Posted October 27, 2011 Yes i agree that at that time of the night..you do respond different..i assume he was drunk since he didnt call again ...and as for missing me..im sure he does but he shouldnt care who im with because he has had others after me that i was aware of and he was open about ..but thank you all for your responses..tho he still appears in my mind im still focusing on me and will not call him! tomorrow makes a week of him calling me...so im sure it wasnt important anyway
citrusdrop1688 Posted November 1, 2011 Posted November 1, 2011 I think you need to really think about what you even want in general. Maybe its a very good thing you didnt answer and he didnt leave a message. It is sooo disrespectful to cheat on someone, but its even worse to get into a relationship with someone else and get emotions involved with the other person, playing both. And then he had the balls to dump you after treating you like that? Dont answer anything he says and count your blessings you got to see who he was before there were cars and houses and children involved
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