lovebug1991 Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 So my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. Our relationship has been really good so far but a lot has changed since we moved in together 3 months ago. He doesn't seem to care about settling arguments as he used to and we don't talk as much anymore. This week we both had some time off school and he decided to go home for the week and I decided to stay home and make some extra money. Before he left he said he would call me throughout the week. I have messaged him a couple times and e-mailed him. I haven't heard from him at all other then last night he said he would call me and respond to my e-mail. He didn't call and he didn't respond. I tried calling his house this afternoon and his dad said he was out with friends. I haven't heard from him at all. He knows I really miss him and I feel like he's lost feelings for me since we moved in together... What should I do? I can't necessarily just break up with him because I'm a student and don't have money to just get my own place.
maysj18 Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 1) How old are you guys? 2) After moving in together, the dynamic of the relationship will change. That's common knowledge. It's also not surprising that he's not answering, because I'm sure he needs space. It doesn't matter if you guys were together every day before you lived together, when you move in with someone you don't have that alone time. I say he just wants space and there's nothing wrong with that, especially since I'm assuming you're in your early twenties since you said you're both still in college. When he gets back, talk to him about it, and if it that's why he didn't answer suggest planning things you could do separately (i.e. you go out with your girlfriends and he can stay at the house or go out with his friends)
maysj18 Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 1) How old are you guys? 2) After moving in together, the dynamic of the relationship will change. That's common knowledge. It's also not surprising that he's not answering, because I'm sure he needs space. It doesn't matter if you guys were together every day before you lived together, when you move in with someone, you give up your ability to "escape". I say he just wants space and there's nothing wrong with that, especially since I'm assuming you're in your early twenties since you said you're both still in college. When he gets back, talk to him about it, and if it that's why he didn't answer suggest planning things you could do separately (i.e. you go out with your girlfriends and he can stay at the house or go out with his friends)
Pierre Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 Moving in together without commitment does not work. This relationship is doomed. Regular couples that are committed talk to each other daily when one travels out of the house. The above poster is trying to rationalize behavior that is unacceptable and hurtful to you OP.
MizHoney2U Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 I say just let him have his space... we all need that. Try not to call him again and if and when calls or comes home, just welcome it or him and do not scold him for his obviously needed space. Not all distance is dooming and not all shackers are doomed.... stay positive, get some exercise, rest, and you time.
Pierre Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 I say just let him have his space... we all need that. Try not to call him again and if and when calls or comes home, just welcome it or him and do not scold him for his obviously needed space. Not all distance is dooming and not all shackers are doomed.... stay positive, get some exercise, rest, and you time. There is no point in being a doormat if she is unhappy with his lack of communication. Normal couples talk everyday, more so when one partner is away.
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