wheream_i Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 I'm asking the ladies what they would think or how they would feel about this. Prior to asking someone out, I start out by asking if they are seeing someone at the moment. If the answer is no then I proceed to ask them out from there. My question for you is, if she says yes that she is seeing someone, is the follow up question "is it serious?" a strange question to ask? I asked someone that awhile back and she giggled and said yes it was exclusive. Later on I wondered if that was a weird thing to ask. I figured if she wasn't serious about him then she would've let me know or left the door open for me to proceed to ask her out. What do you think?
Imageiko Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 Skip the second question if you insist on asking the first. If it's not serious it's pretty unlikely she tells you she's seeing somebody in the first place.
lovebug1991 Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 I agree. If she was into you and the current relationship she was in wasn't serious she wouldn't have bothered telling you in the first place or she would have told you and proceeded to tell you it wasn't that serious. Just leave it to the first question and leave out the second.
AHardDaysNight Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 I agree with everyone else. If she was interested in you, she would say she wasn't seeing anybody; if she lied and said she was, she wasn't interested in you.
MizHoney2U Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 I'm asking the ladies what they would think or how they would feel about this. Prior to asking someone out, I start out by asking if they are seeing someone at the moment. If the answer is no then I proceed to ask them out from there. My question for you is, if she says yes that she is seeing someone, is the follow up question "is it serious?" a strange question to ask? I asked someone that awhile back and she giggled and said yes it was exclusive. Later on I wondered if that was a weird thing to ask. I figured if she wasn't serious about him then she would've let me know or left the door open for me to proceed to ask her out. What do you think? I saw the other responses and agreed so I left the thread thinking that he got some good responses no need to add anything... then I thought, I like as many responses as I can get so I have something to compare so here goes.... I agree with the others... however, you also risk the chance of possibly sharing advice to her guy after she dumps him for you cause she wasn't as serious as he might have been. LOL... However, there is nothing wrong with going out with others during the dating period until we find the one who makes us want to be exclusive. You're only inviting her out. How says there will be mutual interests? Skip the 'serious' question and proceed.
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