talking to a girl whos BF's in jail for a yr or more. what do i do?

[rob24]

cliffs:

 

-chicks bf goes to jail for a yr or more (not the first time, hes a ****ed up kid)

-she calls me n we hang out with group of friends one night.

-we start hanging out alot, then **** gets a lil heated as it goes on( kissing, cuddling, pretty much shes cheating except we havent had sex yet)

-she tells me she has feelings for me, strong feelings, yet she still loves him. (note that i have neevr asked her anything about how she felt about me, she came out and said this)

-just a few days ago, she said she dosent wanna be in this situation having to hold back when shes with me becasue her bf's in jail and she wants to do what she wants to do.

-i can gaurentee she gives it up this weekend lmao.

 

now, should i go as far as having a relationship with this girl? i like her alot, and it seems thats were this is headed, but im afraid when her douchebag bf is out, shes ganna either cheat behind my back and or run back to him.

 

help any1?

[Art_Critic]

If you are hoping to scoop up a little action because she will be vulnerable then I wouldn't go there.. you will be on a roller coaster ride...

 

Keywords... BF.. not EXBF...

 

Keypoints....

If he wasn't in jail you wouldn't even be in the picture..

If he wasn't in jail she would be with him.

She is still seeing him as his GF...

 

If I were you I would leave this one go...

 

If he gets outs for good behavior in 6 months she would drop you like a hot potato to go back to him...in fact you can bet even after a year she will go back to him..

and she isn't telling the truth about being over it... she is still hooked.. that is why she is still seeing him.

 

The way I see it there isn't a move for you.. she is still in a relationship and you would be the rebound...

 

Sorry

[rob24]

yea no tht wasnt my intentions. she was the one callin me n ****.

 

yea she told me she has "strong feelings for me that **** cant just blow off" but shes still in love with her boyfriend.

 

idk its ****ed up. anyways thanks for the input

[fallenenvy]

If you are hoping to scoop up a little action because she will be vulnerable then I wouldn't go there.. you will be on a roller coaster ride...

 

Keywords... BF.. not EXBF...

 

Keypoints....

If he wasn't in jail you wouldn't even be in the picture..

If he wasn't in jail she would be with him.

She is still seeing him as his GF...

 

If I were you I would leave this one go...

 

If he gets outs for good behavior in 6 months she would drop you like a hot potato to go back to him...in fact you can bet even after a year she will go back to him..

and she isn't telling the truth about being over it... she is still hooked.. that is why she is still seeing him.

 

The way I see it there isn't a move for you.. she is still in a relationship and you would be the rebound...

 

Sorry

 

Im usualy the one to say go for it but i think Art is right. I'm afraid that at this point youd be setting yourself up for failure. She may be saying stuff to you but at the same time she must be lonely seeing as he is in jail... not to say things couldn't end up going somewhere but when this guy gets out she very well may go back to him; and even if she doesn't im afraid you will be paranoid because you have already expressed fears of her stepping out on you for him.

Perhaps you should just be her friend for awhile and be there for her (cause im sure this sucks for her) and see where it goes.. but don't become the rebound and comfort sex toy to keep her company till hes back.. thats just not fair.

[rob24]

yea no tht wasnt my intentions. she was the one callin me n ****.

 

yea she told me she has "strong feelings for me that **** cant just blow off" but shes still in love with her boyfriend.

 

idk its ****ed up. anyways thanks for the input

[rob24]

Im usualy the one to say go for it but i think Art is right. I'm afraid that at this point youd be setting yourself up for failure. She may be saying stuff to you but at the same time she must be lonely seeing as he is in jail... not to say things couldn't end up going somewhere but when this guy gets out she very well may go back to him; and even if she doesn't im afraid you will be paranoid because you have already expressed fears of her stepping out on you for him.

Perhaps you should just be her friend for awhile and be there for her (cause im sure this sucks for her) and see where it goes.. but don't become the rebound and comfort sex toy to keep her company till hes back.. thats just not fair.

 

yea see i was just freinds art first. then SHE started taking up a notch asking me if i was holding back when i was around her and not holding her/kissing her n all that. n i told her yeah i am because i respect you n the situations ur in. and she told me she didnt want a situation, she wanted to do what she wanted to do and not feel guilty just ebcause hes in jail and hide her feelings for me because of tht.

 

idk its too messed up ive never been in this situation lol. i like her alot so i hate to just give up, but sometimes the right thing is the hardest thing

[fallenenvy]

Yes the right thing is often the hardest... but what are you looking to do? What is right for her or you?

 

It seems to me she is thinking of only herself.. and not what repercussions may hit YOU if you take things further with her.

 

Say you get involved but then her bf gets out and she wants to go back to him because its what she wants to do... where does that leave you?

 

I don't think shes thinking things through. Perhaps you should have a SERIOUS talk with her about what her longer term plans are with this asshat thats in jail. Is she just going for the short term solution? Screw around with you till she can get back with him... or does she SERIOUSLY want to go somewhere with you and leave the f*ckup behind.

 

Shouldn't let her have her cake and eat it to so to speak. Theres no reason for you to be her feel good man for the next year or so then for you to be dropped.