ChipsnSalsa Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 Ok, So there is a girl who I have been recently emailing back and forth with on a daily basis. She lives in another town not too far away and though we have never met, we have exchaged pictures, had good chemistry, etc. This was through Face Book. Our last email was Wednesday of last week... and since then I haven't heard anything from her at all. Given her birthday was this past Sunday...I am sure she was bombarded with emails, cards and the such... maybe thats why? I don't know. What do you guys think. What should I do (if anything) and what could possibly be going on here? I think she really liked me.. is she playing a game, is she nervous, is she testing me...what? LOL How should I play this hand. Thanks
Mrlonelyone Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 Were the emails of an explicitly sexual nature or were you just friendly. When it comes to FB one thing to know is that some people friend other people just to have a higher number of friends and have no intention of actually staying in touch with all those people in any active way. Such people often come on her, or other boards then call someone emailing them via FB a "stalker". :eyeroll: Send one more email asking her how her Bday was (and if you have been emailing for a week or more, and you have the means to meet her halfway ask to do that in a casual way). If she does like you she will reachout to you too. If not then move on, there are many others around the corner. The world has over 3.5 Billion females in it..so hundreds of millions must be suitable for you right now.
Author ChipsnSalsa Posted October 26, 2011 Author Posted October 26, 2011 Were the emails of an explicitly sexual nature or were you just friendly. When it comes to FB one thing to know is that some people friend other people just to have a higher number of friends and have no intention of actually staying in touch with all those people in any active way. Such people often come on her, or other boards then call someone emailing them via FB a "stalker". :eyeroll: Send one more email asking her how her Bday was (and if you have been emailing for a week or more, and you have the means to meet her halfway ask to do that in a casual way). If she does like you she will reachout to you too. If not then move on, there are many others around the corner. The world has over 3.5 Billion females in it..so hundreds of millions must be suitable for you right now. The post was friendly in nature. She was saying I was awesome, so sweet, my emails made her day... then like I said on Wednesday of last week she seemed ok... and said "she'll email me more later... she had a long day... have a great night...sweet friend!"... etc... I send her a short birthday wish via FB on Sunday, but she has like over 300 friends on there... so maybe she is just taking time to reply to everyone or maybe something else. Should I just play the wait or should I email her again. If I email her, what should I say? Could she be nervous or just not interested... its like a complete 180 so I am confused.
Mrlonelyone Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 Those short Bday messages on FB almost don't count as messages. Everyone knows they are obligatory. Send one, and only one more message. Ask her to meet you in person face to face for something casual. Coffee or a fast food meal, something simple. Then the ball is firmly and unambiguously in her court. If she's interested she will get back to you. If she's not interested and just fading out she will not get back to you. In that case move on.
watermelonjuice Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 I thought I started this thread. Your situation is too similar to mine, though mine happened from an online dating site. Anyway, it's a week since my last email to him. I sent another short casual email yesterday but nothing. If mine was anything to go by, not great. But I hope your situation turns out differently than mine.
oaks Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 what could possibly be going on here? I think she really liked me.. is she playing a game, is she nervous, is she testing me...what? Most likely she's just not that interested and/or she's more interested in someone else. Since you're asking in a dating forum I assume your intention was that you wanted to date her... perhaps she realised this and didn't like the idea, or perhaps she got bored after so many emails in which you didn't ask her out. I see it's also been her birthday... so maybe she's just been busy with birthday drinks/dinners/parties. Maybe she met someone at one of those social events. My crystal ball has gone foggy. Ask her if she had a good birthday and ask what she did to celebrate. If she doesn't respond then you should have enough of an answer!
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