steve566 Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 Im officially exhausted from all of this drama in my life, 2 months ago she broke up with me after returning home from visiting her family in st louis. She told bunch of excuses about lack of commitment and her losing feelings for me but she had never once mentioned this before the break up. The next week she tells me that she is going to move to st louis to take care of her mom and brother who are struggling to make ends meet and are living in her aunts basement. She has a year left in school til she can move but seems very set on it. Since the break up i tried to get her back for a couple weeks then tried to go NC, made it 2 weeks then she started calling and texting to check on me. Since friday she has texted and called multiple times. We talked today and i told her that here calling was a bad idea and making it hard for me to move on. she started crying and saying that she missed me and cares about me so much but feels she cant get back together because she knows i wont move to st louis with her. I dont know how to make this situation work but i feel she will regret moving and throwing our relationship away but i cant come between her and here family
Author steve566 Posted October 25, 2011 Author Posted October 25, 2011 heres the full story if you want to read http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t301156/
EgoJoe Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 Hmmm. I guarantee if you said you'd move she'd have another excuse so here is what you do. Next time you hear from her just say, "Where is your self-respect? You're not fooling anybody but yourself. Leave me alone." Then ignore unless she comes to the table with anything other than bullsheiza.
Author steve566 Posted October 25, 2011 Author Posted October 25, 2011 yea, i even told here that maybe i would possibly move but deep down i know i couldnt.. i live in florida right on the beach and really dont think i could take being in the middle of the country in the winter. I just dont get why she had to break it off now when she isnt leaving for another year, maybe she wanted to do it before we both got more attached making it harder down the road.
Zabs Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 She is trying to manipulate you into doing as she wants. She wants you but on her terms... If you give an ultimatum, be sure to stick to it otherwise you will be setting yourself up for more heartache x Zabs xx
Author steve566 Posted October 26, 2011 Author Posted October 26, 2011 Didnt give an ultimatum just said that her calling me is making it hard for me to move on and if she doesnt want to try and make it work then she needs to stop calling. Basically told her i cant be her friend and i'll let her know if/when im ready for that. She texted me later last night saying that she was sorry and knows its to early to be just friends but she is struggling because she said that she still cares and whats to know how im doing. Its so hard because we are so compatible but somehow i ended up in a position where she had to choose me or her family... I really thought me and her would be engaged in less than a year from now.
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