stunned8165 Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 Most of you know my story. She left Memoriel day weekend.. Her birthday past in July, then mine and the two kids. Although I didn't get a birthday wish from any of them in August, I still sent the kids birthday cards with a toysrus gift certificate. Bith kids B Days are in August. Now here is the Halloween weekend. I sent one card to both kids telling them I miss them very much which I do.. Some say don't, some say do. What I can tell you is that I don't want to take this out on the kids. I miss them very much. They don't have a dad. I was the only dad they know. I have been with them since they were 1 and 2 years old. This has been the HARDEST part for me... Quick run down below and of which I have posted here already.. [sIZE=3] dated a girl for three years who has two young children who just turned 4 and 5 in August. They have no dad in their lives. I am the only Dad they know. I raised them for three years like they were my own, my family adopted them in as if she was my wife and those were my children, I paid the bills when we decided to live together in my home, great area, grade a schools, did 90% of the laundry, took care of the cars, yard, helped cleaned the house and even taught the 5 year old girl how to write her name before kindergarten. The children were from two different fathers. She's 35 years old and I was good to her. But what does she do?.. She cheats on me with her boss. Leaves me for him. A real creep too because he does this to all the girls that work for him.. Nice huh? Is the grass always greener on the other side?... Well, you and I both know how that will turn out. . [/sIZE]
geegirl Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 (edited) The thing is, who will be the one receiving the cards on behalf of the kids. She will. Will she give it to them? Don't know. Does she want you in their lives? I understand that you miss them but how long will you keep up with this when you get nothing in return. If you were their father, you would have rights. Those kids are probably not even getting your cards and even if they do, you are keeping yourself engaged with her. I can assume that a little part of you also wants to get a reaction out of her. Send them toys and cards if you can keep your emotions for the kids separate from her. When you feel indifference with her. You should not be engaging in any fashion when you are emotional about her. Edited October 25, 2011 by geegirl
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