sallyho Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 ive being seeing this man for nearly 7months but he really messes with my head he keeps telling me we are just friends but rings me four and five times aday and always before i go to bed.i have to make arrangments to go and see him he has never comes to see me even tho he has a car and i dont.he lives 25miles away and i have to pay friends to bring me to see him.he says he dosent care if i looked like a model he wouldnt drive that far to see anyone.but he is so jealous of me he hates me going out on my own even tho he goes out on his own and tells me he is looking for mrs right.i know he only says that to get a reaction out of me but i tell him if thats what he wants then i cant stop him.he tells me that sometimes he dosent think im good enough for him and then sometimes he thinks i might be the woman for him. he slept with my cousin a few months back and that really hurt he said he was really sorry but i found out a week ago from my sister that he wanted to meet up with my cousin again i asked him about it and he denied all said i should have nothing to do with my sister that she was bad.but i know hes telling lies.so i went out on saturday night got drunk and texed him telling him i was with someone else.i even got a friend of mine to text him letting on he was my new man he was very angry with me.but then on sunday night he text me saying he was heatrbroken i felt so sorry for him so i told him id made the whole thing up he told me never to contact him again but i feel so bad should i contact him or just let him go
HappyFlower Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 I'm sorry to hear he's been messing you around like that hun! I'd let him go if I were you. You're both lying to each other, so there's no trust in the relationship. And he's unfaithful, controling, manipulative and making no committment to you what so ever. It sounds like one set of rules for him, a totally different set of rules for you as far as he's concerned. Find someone who shares your values Good luck! xx
ScienceGal Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 Dear God, please move on. Does this guy have any good qualities? (rhetorical question) You need to let him go! He not only sounds like an emotionally unavailable/messed up person, but also a lousy partner. He doesn't seem to even have the desire to treat you well.
Author sallyho Posted October 25, 2011 Author Posted October 25, 2011 thankyou so much for your reply i know in my heart what your saying is true its so hard when all you want in life is to be loved and cared for so you cling on to any chance youve got.hes 44years old but was dating a girl 20years younger than him for 3years she left him over a year ago and i know he has never got over her he still has her photos up on his wall and the photos of me an him are just left on the table gathering dust. i think he thinks of himself that if he got a 20year old once that he could do it again he did tell me more than once that i was to old for him im 43 but look much longer for my age he has hurt my feelings so much and when i confront him he just laughs and says i take life to serious he knows i have been in a very abusive relationship before him and i think he played on my feelings he knows im not a strong person i hurt to easily he told me he loved me but not in love with me.he asked me did i love him and i said no i was to scared that he would play on that.i just have to try and be strong and move on but its wile hard
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