NickT Posted May 19, 2004 Posted May 19, 2004 I went to collect my ring and belongings from my ex lastnight.We had a bit of an argument the night before on msn messenger regarding the ring.She wasnt happy about me taking it back to sell on,as it was a gift and she could have sold it and kept the money.A gift,my ass! I told her it was a contract that she broke and that it would be closure for me if i took it back.She didnt really have an argument and kept coming out with silly reasons.she said she hasnt worn it since the split,so why should she want to keep it! Anyway,we had a big chat about things and she hasnt been seeing anyone else,and i believe her,she reckons she cant be herself around me,which i dont believe,3 years is a long time to tell someone.It was really good for me as i burned some bridges and i feel a whole lot better.I told her exactly what i think of her,as in needing to change her ways to save relationships.I told her i dont want anything more to do with her as she cant communicate,which she didnt deny. Anyway,i feel ok now,ive got rid of all the cards and photos and everything that reminds me of her.I havent been upset since last wednesday and im looking forward to my future.Im going to make some changes in my life and gonna stop letting people walk all over me.I feel a whole lot stronger now,and feel i have more confience so im gonna use it. Im not being funny but im gonna stop visiting this site as i think it makes things harder,its no good trying to hold on.Ive accepted it now,it means theres something better out there waiting for me and im gonna find it! Thanks for all the advice from everyone,it helped me through the hard part. My advice to you guys now,is to just stop moping around and get on with your new lifes!!
Papillon Posted May 19, 2004 Posted May 19, 2004 You're a selfish pig. The ring is nothing but a commodity to you, it obviously means nothing to you, and neither does she. Broken contract? That is so pathetic I don't know whether to laugh or cry. Thanks the gods that, now, at least, she has one less thing to remind her of you.
Author NickT Posted May 19, 2004 Author Posted May 19, 2004 Excuse me,but at the end of the day,she finished me out of the blue after 3 years and couldnt even tell me to my face!She told me over msn messenger and really hurt me badly!! The ring was a symbol of our love,which was to last forever.I still love her,but she doesnt love me,so why should i let her keep the ring? The ring was not a gift!!
taken Posted May 19, 2004 Posted May 19, 2004 Etiquette dictates that if she broke it off she is to return the ring. If he breaks it off it is her option to keep it. You did the right thing in getting the ring back.
Pyrannaste Posted May 19, 2004 Posted May 19, 2004 She said she'd have sold the ring? If I'll ever break up with someone and get to keep the ring, I'd think selling it would be utterly disgusting if I was not in desperate need for money and/or the man was not a total pig. Since she broke up via msn messenger, and does not live in Alaska, and would have sold the ring, I say well done
Leikela Posted May 19, 2004 Posted May 19, 2004 Screw "ettiquette". There's no wrong or right here. It's up to the individuals to decide and NickT and his ex worked it out, end of story. Good for you Nick!
Leikela Posted May 19, 2004 Posted May 19, 2004 Originally posted by taken I was agreeing with Nick in case you missed it. I didn't miss anything. I wasn't even referring to you directly. Just because you used the word ettiquette, as did I, doesn't mean that my post was in retribution to yours. Like I originally said, it's up to the couple to work out who keeps the ring, not society and their "ettiquette" standards. That's all I'm saying...
hurtingandconfused Posted May 19, 2004 Posted May 19, 2004 God damn Nick... You have some guts...I wish I was like you when my ex broke up with me...She did it over the phone in my case. I would have loved to take back the promise ring I gave her. It's too late now. However, good job..takes a lot to do what you did.
Ally Boo Posted May 20, 2004 Posted May 20, 2004 All I know is, when I went to my divorce lawyer, he told me the ring is a gift and I had every legal right to have it...no matter whose fault the divorce was. However, my ex is an ass too, and kept the rings and my other jewelry.
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