tstarfly Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 I get so sad sometimes when I think of my future with my boyfriend. I love being with someone that treats me the way I want to be...kind considerate, loving will do anything for me really. He cooks and cleans and does things that I ask him to do around the house and with our dogs. But sometimes there are issues with social awkwardness that frustrates me beyond belief. For example we went to dinner with my parents and my best friend and her boyfriend. Right before we went out he said he didn't feel well. I looked him in the eye (this isn't the first time) and said do you want to stay home? He said no, I asked if he was going to have fun tonight he said yes. Well long story short he sat there all night not fine and obviously like something was wrong but wouldn't say and would just reply with "i'm fine"...so I guess its not social awkwardness as it is just rude and uncomfortable for everyone. Its embarrassing. Turns out he had indigestion which I believe bc he didn't touch his food or have anything to drink. But not everytime we go out just sometimes these incidents happen and always with my friends I feel. I do not treat his friends like that I buck up and put on a happy face or stay home. The other issue is that I am driving my career and chasing my goals whereas my bf's goals are to make me happy and be with me forever. This I don't understand nor is it very attractive to me. On one hand I have never had a guy treat me like this and on the other hand I don't feel like I am with a grab the bull by the horns kind of guy. We moved to Arkansas from Ca. for a job I took only after dating 5 months. He didn't want to lose me and moved out. I am 31 and this was the first time I moved in with a bf as well. There was alot of overwhelming struggle with this, he was depressed in the beginning and very emotional. Now a year later I got my promotion and will be moving back to Ca. as planned. Over the last few months I have been interviewing with different options and he has known to look for work in either SF or LA. Well now here I am with the job and moving to LA and the guy has not even finished his resume. Last night I offer to cook dinner and do the laundry so that he can take the time to do it and after 2 hours I look at the cover letter and it does not even make sense....I whip one out for him in 6 minutes... I am so at a loss as to what to do. Do I move to LA with him and see how things pan out in a familiar environment. Or do I ask for space and suggest we have different places to live? I love him and don't want to hurt him but I have this underlying feeling that this is not what I want bc I have complained about these two issues as my biggest concerns and they continually come up. I also know relationships are not perfect and take work, and am afraid of giving up a good thing only to find I have made a huge mistake. . He knows he wants to marry me and I am so on the fence. Please help! Ambivalent
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