musicSaves12 Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 So I have been posting here a lot lately and my last post was about seeing my ex out with her new man and how much it hurt and I have been thinking about her way too much in the past two days. I am not going to let something like that make me change my habits or leave my friends just because she was there. I know I've said before that I want to get her back, part of me still wants to, but now I feel more and more that I don't want her back at all after seeing what kinda of guy she is dating/ seeing right now. She is a really pretty girl and I am surprised at the guy she picked. Maybe that is what they call a rebound? More or less I think its someone completely different from me. Which makes since but I'm not going to try and change who I am (reinventing I think is something different though). Now I am going to some shows that are at some smaller venues and there is a very good chance that she will be there. I don't want to talk to her but if I can't avoid it what do I do? It will be about one month of NC when these concerts are going on and I don't know if I should talk to her at all if I can't avoid it or just say hi and move to the other side of the venue? I'm not going to leave just because she is there. I guess this leads me to another question. I have seen some info about sending your ex a letter. I haven't yet and I may not but is it a good idea even if she is seeing someone already? Would I accomplish anything? I guess hopefully she won't show up to these shows and I won't have to worry about any of this and continue moving forward. Thanks!
mike588 Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 So I have been posting here a lot lately and my last post was about seeing my ex out with her new man and how much it hurt and I have been thinking about her way too much in the past two days. I am not going to let something like that make me change my habits or leave my friends just because she was there. I know I've said before that I want to get her back, part of me still wants to, but now I feel more and more that I don't want her back at all after seeing what kinda of guy she is dating/ seeing right now. She is a really pretty girl and I am surprised at the guy she picked. Maybe that is what they call a rebound? More or less I think its someone completely different from me. Which makes since but I'm not going to try and change who I am (reinventing I think is something different though). Now I am going to some shows that are at some smaller venues and there is a very good chance that she will be there. I don't want to talk to her but if I can't avoid it what do I do? It will be about one month of NC when these concerts are going on and I don't know if I should talk to her at all if I can't avoid it or just say hi and move to the other side of the venue? I'm not going to leave just because she is there. I guess this leads me to another question. I have seen some info about sending your ex a letter. I haven't yet and I may not but is it a good idea even if she is seeing someone already? Would I accomplish anything? I guess hopefully she won't show up to these shows and I won't have to worry about any of this and continue moving forward. Thanks! Don't avoid doing things you like to do because she "could be there" unless you think it may put you back at square one. Don't give her that power. If you see her just ignore her,, don't talk to her! As far as the letter, DON'T do it, what will it accomplish? If she dumped you,, you owe her nothing.
Author musicSaves12 Posted October 25, 2011 Author Posted October 25, 2011 Don't avoid doing things you like to do because she "could be there" unless you think it may put you back at square one. Don't give her that power. If you see her just ignore her,, don't talk to her! As far as the letter, DON'T do it, what will it accomplish? If she dumped you,, you owe her nothing. Thanks for the advice! I don't know if you can help with this but what is up with sending a letter sometime after you start NC. I've read it on here another blog and adds for books about dating and getting your ex back. This does not mean I'm going to do it just don't get why some people say to send one out. Just a general question if someone has an answer to.
mike588 Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 Thanks for the advice! I don't know if you can help with this but what is up with sending a letter sometime after you start NC. I've read it on here another blog and adds for books about dating and getting your ex back. This does not mean I'm going to do it just don't get why some people say to send one out. Just a general question if someone has an answer to. What's the point of sending a letter AFTER you start N.C. I've always suggested sending a brief email expressing what you feel, what you want, what you expect out of the relationship then go N.C. That way you clear the air about what you want,, there is no guessing on their part then it's up to him/her to decide.
Doona Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 Just ignore her! I went through a break up 5 years ago where my ex and I went to the same club, I saw him there every week. We would just ignore each other and carry on with our own friends.
Author musicSaves12 Posted October 26, 2011 Author Posted October 26, 2011 Thanks! not going to worry about this whole letter thing now. Never really made much sense anyway.
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