HappyFlower Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 (edited) Aaggrrhh! My ex of 2 months said he was posting some stuff back, stuff I'd asked for ages ago (I took everything of his back when we split). Great! What I didn't see coming was he also sent the memory box I made of our valentines day holiday to Paris...but took half the stuff out Ouch! I being really upset and weak text him asking why he did it? Presumably to hurt me. His reply was 'you hurt me too. If you don't want it don't keep it. Simple as'. Some art I'd done on our recent Asia holiday (3 weeks before we split) was missing. He said 'did you notice that wasn't in there? Thats because I have kept it. Why? Because I choose to'. So...back to NC Day 1 Why would someone do that? He continuously claims I hurt him massively, by not trusting him with going out alone 'as a friend' with a woman he met while I was away, just 6 weeks after I found out he'd lied about his best mate actually being his ex. Why say you still care about me and want me to be ok, but send me this? Why say you want to be friends but then NEVER contact me? Edited October 25, 2011 by HappyFlower
PegNosePete Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 Well he has made it perfectly clear how he feels about you. You are not going to get back any more of your things so I would just cut your losses and move on. NC this douchebag.
Author HappyFlower Posted October 25, 2011 Author Posted October 25, 2011 Well he has made it perfectly clear how he feels about you. You are not going to get back any more of your things so I would just cut your losses and move on. NC this douchebag. yeah you're right...I hate he's being childish and keeping things of mine 'because he can' lol. Did you both breakup because of him going out with his ex? I don't know but he might have not told you as you would have felt bad, however you found out anyways. I had to find out from a family member that she was more than just a friend...and the ex kept saying to him that I wasn't allowed to go out with the friends group. He told me they never slept together. He later confessed that they did actually (before I was in the picture - he never cheated that I'm aware of). Said he didn't tell me because it 'wasn't an issue'. I think if your ex is saying your GF can't go out with you, then its an issue. But thats just me. He then swapped phone numbers with a random single woman he met on a train while I was away. He arranged to go out for coffee with her alone, saying he wanted a new friend, that it shouldn't be a problem and I should just trust him. And then he split up with me because I didn't trust him... Really? I'm sorry to hear she does that, thats so stupid! I don't get why dumpers need to continue to hurt the person they left
Author HappyFlower Posted October 25, 2011 Author Posted October 25, 2011 yeah you're right...I hate he's being childish and keeping things of mine 'because he can' lol. I know I'm quoting myself lol. I've been thinking about this all day since the package arrived. I find it really odd. I'm not hurt by it (the half-full box is what hurt) and the art isn't worth anything. That he felt the need to point out that it was missing, and then tell me he choose to keep it for himself rather than return it, kind of sounds a little sad. I almost pity him. I thought he was better than petty tactics.
EgoJoe Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 Ahhh the obvious signs of Projection, deflection and ego-posturing. Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain!
immitable Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 Well, like EgoJoe said it is his ego but as a guy I would also say that he in some way cares about you and is having hard time letting go. See he kept the stuff so it was not a clear cut for him. What his message is saying is that he wants you to realise where you did wrong as well.
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