oaks Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 So many varieties to choose from! I went for the Lindt dark with ginger. It's good!
Author Els Posted October 27, 2011 Author Posted October 27, 2011 Hee hee, I've seen the ginger and chili varieties around, but being the unadventurous prude that I am, I only tried the orange.
azsinglegal Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 You should try getting out of the house and do some excersize. Doing something productive physically...always helps me when I feel down. I leave the gym and I'm instantly boosted. Your body releases good endorphines that make you happy! I could have the worst day at work and after working out even for 30 min I feel 200Xs better. Plus...eating all that chocolate is going to put on 20lbs by the time he gets back if you'er not careful. LOL
Sanman Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 No, he purposefully remembered it for its significance. He still remembers my old number now, 3.5 years later. Just not my current one. It's very late in the night and I'm working, so I can't really leave the computer, but I went out for a few hours to have some fun earlier. I remember my gf's old number and not her new one too. By the time she got her new numbers, she had already achieved speed dial/favorites status on my phones.
Sanman Posted October 27, 2011 Posted October 27, 2011 See, that's the problem, there is nothing that I can't do while he is around. :/ We both believe in giving each other space and freedom while living together so I already watch several shows that he hates even while he is here, he just does not join me. I did have Korean food for dinner, though, that was nice, since he hates it and we usually have dinner together. Well, that makes it tougher, but there are always the little things that you have to compromise on (like Korean food ). Call up some friends. Always a good time to catch up with those you may have not had time for. Also, if you are going to eat lindt, I suggest lindor truffles. Those things are amazing.
Author Els Posted October 28, 2011 Author Posted October 28, 2011 Yeah, I am feeling a lot better today, and am pleased to report that I have gone a whole day without chocolate. The majority of my old friends are scattered all over the world, so 'catching up' is always done online and not in real life, which isn't as satisfying probably, but better than nothing I guess.
Author Els Posted October 29, 2011 Author Posted October 29, 2011 Update: Well, things have been going well. He's contacted me every day thus far -- he used to back when we were LD, but I had not expected that this time seeing as he has 2 years' worth of catching up with friends and family to squeeze into such a short time! I think I need to work on my anxieties and learn to trust him more - not the sort of trust that he won't go philandering behind my back, I have that already, but the trust that he would do what a loving bf would do to try and make me happy without me preempting everything. Most of the time when I have learnt to let go, I have received pleasant surprises.
Kamille Posted October 29, 2011 Posted October 29, 2011 Glad things are on the up and up Elswyth. It must feel good to realize that you can trust him to be a loving, caring boyfriend, without having to preempt the situation. It's good that you're taking the time to enjoy how good it feels. (Take that, anxious thought processes!)
Author Els Posted October 29, 2011 Author Posted October 29, 2011 Awww, thanks, K. I certainly won the battle against those pesky anxieties today! I think they stem partly from the fact that there have been a few occasions, in history, when he had actually not acted in a loving manner. But those were partly driven by me as well, and I had realized long ago that as he has forgiven me for the mistakes I made while I was learning, so should I forgive him, and forgiving means truly leaving them in the past. It was just easier said than done.
Author Els Posted October 29, 2011 Author Posted October 29, 2011 (edited) Thanks, TC. I usually do that, too. It really helps, I find. Wow, I just realized that the last occurrence of the occasions I mentioned was more than 1 YEAR ago. How did I let it subconsciously affect me for so long? It wasn't even anything big like cheating or an insult. I really need to start living in my thoughts less. Edited October 29, 2011 by Elswyth
Author Els Posted November 4, 2011 Author Posted November 4, 2011 He's back!!! ....And I have a UTI. Isn't life great?
jobaba Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 I miss him, so much, so much more than I should for a few-week absence. Hormones are such a powerful thing, I'd not realized that. All the logic in the world doesn't keep me from missing him. I'd been told that once you live with someone you feel relieved to have a few weeks without them. Well, it's been 1.5 years and I don't feel that way. That's really sweet. Yea. Hormones are powerful. Your mind can't overcome them, but your body can. So, get out of bed, out of the house, and put your body on the move and start doing some stuff.
soserious1 Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 I would think the first few days of being alone are hard on anybody, you grow used to having the other person's energy in your space, lots of routines spring up between people who share a space, having those suddenly gone is jolting. Don't be overly hard on yourself, enjoy your chocolate, enjoy musing over your relationship, in a few days your normal energy and focus will return. Oh and order pizza or make foods you wouldn't normally have if he were home, make time to get out and do a few things that interest you, his vacation away shouldn't mean that you get to sit there working non-stop and not getting to relax yourself.
Author Els Posted November 4, 2011 Author Posted November 4, 2011 Oh, hrm, I should probably have started a new thread for this, since I had actually posted in it to say he's back. Heh.
carhill Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 Did he buy a time machine? It hasn't been a few weeks yet.
Author Els Posted November 4, 2011 Author Posted November 4, 2011 Yeah, I remembered the wrong return date initially. >.> He had planned for 2 weeks but had been unable to get reasonably priced return tickets on the right day.
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