Conundrummer Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 (edited) I've been living with my girlfriend for 2 years in college. We've been together for about 3 years. She loves me. There is no doubt about it. Me, on the other hand, I don't think I've ever been in love. Anyway, she loves me too much. And I don't love her back. I've ended up hating all the girlfriends I've ever had. In high school there were always other girls trying to get me to break up with my current gf and go out with them. Here in college I don't have any friends that aren't friends with my gf. And so I've just stayed with her. But I kinda hate her. The only thing we have in common is we smoke weed. The only thing we can do together is watch tv. We don't share any interests. And we can't chat. She's Rather overweight and the only thing that turns me off about girls is if they're fat. I'm attracted to her boobs but that's about it. I don't need a perfect body, it's just that I'm attracted to smallness and she is a really big girl. Basically every little thing about us is opposite. I don't know why she is so in love with me. I can't meet another girl as long as I'm still dating her. And I can't tell if I should breakup with her untill I meet another girl. Is it normal to have feelings of hatred tward your gf? If I really hated her would I have already broken up with her? Should I break up with her? Thank you for reading my poorly layed out situation. I want reveal more about this situation to anyone who is interested. Edited October 25, 2011 by Conundrummer
LoveBear22 Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 Dude, have some respect and break up with her, don't hurt her even more than necessary by waiting to see another girl first. You want to be an honorable guy and respect the women you date, whether they love you too much and you hate them or not. Its ridiculous. Break up with her, and then find another girl. Pay the girl some human respect and don't cheat or go relationship hopping. That causes unnecessary pain and makes you an *******.
norajane Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 Dude, have some respect and break up with her, don't hurt her even more than necessary by waiting to see another girl first. You want to be an honorable guy and respect the women you date, whether they love you too much and you hate them or not. Its ridiculous. Break up with her, and then find another girl. Pay the girl some human respect and don't cheat or go relationship hopping. That causes unnecessary pain and makes you an *******. I agree completely. And no, it's not normal to have feelings of hate for your gf. She's not doing anything to hurt you.
Author Conundrummer Posted October 25, 2011 Author Posted October 25, 2011 But what if i do love her and I'll never find anyone better than her? Also I've broken up with her before and she won't just be friends. And we live together. I guess that was my worst choice. Aside from saying I liked her too the day after she drunkenly put my hand on her boob and told me she liked me. I should have said we should just be friends. My life would be so different. I know why I can't break up with her, it's because I'm not entirely sure whether if I love her or not. How do you know if you're in love??!! That's what I need to find out. P.S. I'm new to forums, this is the first I've ever joined. Thank you for responding. Now will anyone read this thread anymore? will you two read what I'm saying? Is is right for me to respond on my own thread?
Untouchable_Fire Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 But what if i do love her and I'll never find anyone better than her? What if? Just pull the trigger. To be really happy in life you need to take risks. Sitting around saying What if isn't going to get you anywhere. Just make up your mind and go with it. Never look back.
Author Conundrummer Posted October 25, 2011 Author Posted October 25, 2011 Ok I get it. haha I'm kind of a horrible person. But it's accidental. So next I need to figure out how to break up with her. What's the best way to let her down easy. How do I explain to a lady that I don't love her anymore? Because if i just say that, that will be the end of civility. She wouldn't allow me to explain myself further. I feel like I've been giving her "signs" since always. So I can't really take that any farther without making my life miserable. Basically I've been trying to get her to break up with me by not being as nice as I could be. It sucks because i want to be with someone who I want to be as nice as i can to. Wow, I really do have to break up. BUT HOW?
daphne Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 It sounds like you're young, but I don't know that I can give you a break for it. You seem to be someone who doesn't take much responsibility for his actions. I find it odd that you hate her. As if she's holding onto you and forced you into this relationship. You are not a victim. If anything, it's possible your gf is of your apathy and disrespect to her. You engaged in this relationship with her. No one held a gun to your head. If you want out, you know where the door is. Be kind, though. Giving her signs is passive aggressive and indirect. As if you want her to do the dirty work of breaking up with her. Be direct but gentle. Just let her know that it's not working out for you and you want to break up. Don't be passive about it, because she can't read your mind.
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