King Teddy Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 (edited) Okay so just a few ago my gf and i were having sex and her mom walked right in the front door...my gf tried to pull up her pants but it was too late. Let me back up. Okay my gf and i were on our way to her house we havent had sex in months and we're lesbians as well. She told me to come in but i said no but she begged me to so i did . we were sitting there and she sat on my lap basically seducing me. i knew her mom would be dere in little under 10 mins. so once again i said no. She got me again with the pleases and cut jestures. We're all into and we hear the key in the door we hopped up immediately (i never undressed her pants were on her ankles and the couch is right by the door). Her mom walks in i glance over my gf pants arent all the way up. Alll i could do was look nervous and leave because now she is in trouble. So im omw home and im getting txt msgs from her saying her mom keeps slapping her i cant come back over and she is taking away her phone. I feel horrible very horrible me and her mom were friends now its like irdk what to do at this point. Any advice ? Im desperate Edited October 25, 2011 by King Teddy typos
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 No matter what transpires, it is most important that you seem as comfortable and non-nervous as can be around your girlfriend's mother. Tell your girlfriend how important it is that she NOT let her mother see that she is nervous and uncomfortable as well. Does her mother know of her daughter's sexual preference??? If not, then that is a much bigger conversation they need to have between the two of them and not involving you. IF her mother already knows that the daughter is a lesbian, then IF the incident comes up in conversation, it might be sensible to apologize directly and sincerely, but then live and interact as if you are reasonably comfortable and likely to overcome the shock of what happened. Again, let me stress that much of her mom's reaction is going to be to both of you seeming/being nervous and uncomfortable about what happened, so you guys are in partial 'control' of how things work themselves out. I know it feels scary, uncomfortable, and vulnerable, but if SOMEhow you can convince yourself to address the issue directly, and not seem to cower away in the shadows like many/most uncomfortable teens would do, then you'll have your best chance. If you were a guy, I'm sure that mother and daughter would be having discussions of birth control, and condoms, and the mom would have the additional fears of the daughter getting pregnant. Furthermore, a guy would be seen as 'assertive' and 'aggressive' and even 'predatory' in some parents' eyes. The truth is, I don't KNOW whether you will ever be able to repair this... but that is ONLY if the mother is irrational and/or unaware of her daughter's sexual preference. Right now it would be great if you were the best actress in the world, so you could maybe go and visit her mother, by yourself, and honestly express that you are sorry about the incident, and that you are tryyyyyyying not to feel uncomfortable about it. You'd do best to LOOK and SOUND CONFIDENT during such a (great acting job). Just show her that you are a mature person who is more comfortable with herself than that mom might have guessed. I think that's your best hope! Good luck.
Lauriebell82 Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 Did your gf's mom know that your gf is a lesbian?
123321 Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 Okay so just a few ago my gf and i were having sex and her mom walked right in the front door... Are you both over the age of consent?
Trimmer Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 (edited) I'm interested and concerned about two particular aspects of your situation that I don't think anyone has addressed directly yet: (1) She said her "mom keeps slapping her." Is this a typical way of them interacting? I think that this kind of out of control violent reaction from the mother goes a little beyond the advice to "just act normal and don't be uncomfortable" around her. That advice might be good in the case of a mother and daughter who were having earnest discussions about this, but this is a physically violent reaction - not really in the same category as "just play it cool." (2) I am interested at the apparently high level of risk your gf was willing to expose herself to. You both KNEW her mother was coming home soon, and sure enough, that actually happened. You were both having sex on the couch right near the door, when you KNEW she was coming in. I would ask "what were you thinking?" and "what was she thinking?" and remind you of the consequences of the behaviors you chose, but I am guessing that you are pretty young, and that you are at the developmental stage of risk-taking without a lot of rational consideration. Well, this is the kind of thing that happens when you take obvious risks. The only other possiblity I can think of is that there is some dynamic between your gf and your mom where she wanted to parade this in front of her mom - to shove it in her face - and whether consciously or not, she used you to accomplish this goal. I'd love to hear a better reason that she would have wanted to have sex with you on a couch right near a door that she KNEW her mom would be walking through... Edited October 26, 2011 by Trimmer
Lauriebell82 Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 The only other possiblity I can think of is that there is some dynamic between your gf and your mom where she wanted to parade this in front of her mom - to shove it in her face - and whether consciously or not, she used you to accomplish this goal. I'd love to hear a better reason that she would have wanted to have sex with you on a couch right near a door that she KNEW her mom would be walking through... Excellent observation, I was wondering the exact same thing. Your gf definately could have been wanting to have sex as a way to "get back at" her mom. You did say that her mom was "slapping her," was she LITERALLY doing that, as in like physically violent? Because that's abuse, and if your gf endures that on a regular basis then she probably has underlying resentments. So her passive aggressive way of dealing with it could be to get caught having sex in order to hurt her mother the way her mother is hurting her...
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