sweetypielovely Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 Okay my BF broke up with me a little over 2 weeks ago. Weve had some vague texting back and forth but nothing major. Mostly rehashing or things of that nature. Some ugliness occurred. Both of us have calmed down. He agreed to meet me next Sunday. Finally yesterday a break thru. He answered my call. First time in 16 days. We talked twice yesterday about things. Mostly catching up. I asked him if he missed me and he said yes. I also asked him if he felt anything i still feel and he said, "well im still here right?" Vague but still something. I told him i wanted to earn his trust back but we had to talk and hang out for that to happen. I told him i didnt want things to be this way always and he said it wouldnt be. Anyway.....He broke up with me because i called his mother after we had a fight one night. He said it broke his trust and its a big deal to him. I told him id like to earn it back. I must say that i was friendly with his mom and we had a huge fight one night so i called her for advice. She ended up telling him i called her. That was the final straw for him. I know it was dumb but i was in sheer panic and didnt even think about it until after i did it. We are seeing each other sunday and im nervous. I dont know if its okay to hug him or if i should be cool. We are in the "friends" stage. We have a huge sexual attraction for one another. Every time we met we had sex. We both agreed to stay friends. For me, i made it known that i dont agree with the break up because our relationship has always been great and even though i messed up it wasnt worth giving up our whole relationship. He agreed on that but said i broke his trust. I guess im hoping with time he will come back but i dont wanna stay in this "friends" stage too long. I dont wanna be comfortable with this stage forever. Anyone have advise on seeing an ex for the first meeting thats friendly? Any advice on this stage were in only 2 weeks post break up. I love him.
ConfusedT Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 personally to me, that is a very petty reason to break up. i understand you went behind his back, per se, to talk to his mother, but that really isnt a make or break in a relationship in my opinion, he has overreacted! also, sex brings emotions for most women, NOT ALL, but most & if you are going to, be prepared to have more than what you feel now come back to you and be even more confused if he continues to do this ignoring game. I also dont believe people can be true "friends" in the real sense, until their emotions are taken out of the situation. some will disagree, but i have never been able to be friends with my ex until i was over them. if you are really friends, he will allow you the time to heal and get over him as well as the distance and come back into his life when you are really ready...
Author sweetypielovely Posted October 24, 2011 Author Posted October 24, 2011 (edited) Well...we had a great relationship and to me that is a dumb reason to completely break up. Relationships are slim pickins where we live and ive always been good to him. I reacted. We never had issues till the last week we were together because he was acting a bit weird and i called him out and he didnt like it. His mother felt i put her in the middle and personally i am older than he is by 12 years. I think she didnt like me because i got that vibe when i met her. She even said to me he didnt need to be in any relationship right now anyway and needed to be single. I bet this plays a huge role in this. Im 41 and hes 29. His mom is 51. I asked him if he still has feelings and he said yes but its been hell for 2 weeks to have been ignored this way. The only reactions i got out of him was when i became confrontational and then he texted back. A hi or hello got nothing back. Today i even texted him and got nothing back but yesterday he was fine. Hes just that way though. I live an hour from him. Edited October 24, 2011 by sweetypielovely
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