Mister_pushover Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 Long story short, split up with the ex 8 months ago as she cheated on me, had to move out of our flat & a month later she got with him. We continued to meet each other much to the disliking of her new bf, they split after 4 months. Kept trying no contact but always failed after a few weeks. We tried being friends, I would stay over, nothing ever happened, she made it clear it wouldn't yet I continued to give her money, pay for food, nights out etc. I did everything yet she would constantly lie & even talk to new guys on the phone in front of me. I noticed she was getting friendly with a guy but would deny so had to cut contact, I found out she is now with this new guy. I am back to square one & feel hurt as I never moved on & now she is happy with someone else. I feel used & abused, she just kept me around till she met someone else. It's her birthday this week, do I wish her a happy bday? I wanted things to end on good terms, I don't want to hate her or her me but the last time I saw her ended badly. I have applied to teach in South Korea, she says it's me running away and maybe it is but I feel this could be a fresh start & to do something completely different. Am I doing the right thing? Should I go & just forget her? Shall I wish her happiness or just leave & focus on me? I am happy for her but feel like she has forgotten about me & just moved on again after getting close again.
ConfusedT Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 i do NOT think it is you running away. It is your life, if you have nothing that holds you there, be free and do what you want. whatever is meant to happen will happen, whether you leave or stay but focus on you! the text is tricky. it depends if you have been completely NC or LC. If LC, why not- you've already been talking! If NC- i dont think i would. might confuse the situation, being as she seems wishy-washy too!
Notsogood Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 OP, Do what you want to regardless of your ex. I moved half way around the world after 8 months of NC from a 6 year relationship. I had always wanted to travel but my ex was not so keen. It was extremely nerve racking when I left, but looking back now (1.5 years later), it was the best thing I could have done. i've done so much and experienced so much in the last 1.5 years that I have always wanted to do and don't regret one thing. Travel really does open your eyes to the world and you realise how insignificant your problems are and just how many new people out there waiting to meet you. All the best with whatever decision you make! PS: South Korea is amazing. I've been there three times and my younger sister taught english there for 6 months and she loved it.
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