I been warned by 3 different people about this home wrecker girl

[lostandconfused79]

My man and this girl knew each other before me. Anyway this past year I found out through other people, this girl has naked pics on online websites. Stole from her own parents, has children she does not raise. She even took and used her now ex bf credit card to go to Hawaii. I heard this from three people. I don't see why three people would all have the same story, who don't know one another, but know her. She has a history of starting trouble with guys who are married.

 

Anyway, I asked him to please have no more contact with her. Just everything about her gives me a bad vibe. Well he tells me she has emailed him at work, and called him before. I ask him why? He told me he would break off contact, last year. He said he didn't want to be rude to her. He has even sent her pics of our new born daughter, knowing I can't stand this girl.

 

I told him its his choice, but if he wants me he has to get rid of her. He sent her an email, being nice to her. Then told me that probably won't work. If she wants to talk to him she will just email him at work. I'm really upset because he told me last year no more contact, and there has been. He's worried about being rude to her? What about my feelings? She's a known home wrecker, I don't want her anywhere near my relationship.

 

What are your opinions? No I am not being a prick I don't care of he has female friends. I'm just not comfortable with this girl. They were even involved in a threesome a few years back. I have tried talking to him, and honestly got no where with that. He said it's hard to break ff contact with her when everybody they work with knows each other. But yet they don't even work in the same place.

 

Should I just give up?

[reboot]

No. Your marriage should be more important to him than some random other woman

[norajane]

I wouldn't give up. He should be far more concerned about how uneasy this is making you, and what this is doing to your relationship.

 

She can email him, but he doesn't have to reply. Why is he so afraid to "be rude" to her? What can she possibly do if he simply does not reply?

 

Your husband is being insensitive.

[Woggle]

What a great person for him to ruin a marriage over.

[EgoJoe]

I like your quote Woggle, you're welcome anytime!

[make me believe]

She's not the problem here, HE is.

 

He doesn't care about your feelings and he is completely disrespecting you.

 

You keep giving him ultimatums, saying it's her or you, but when he refuses to cut off contact with her because he doesn't want to "be rude" to her, what do you do? NOTHING. He knows he can stay in contact with her & you might kick up a bit of a fuss, but in the end you won't leave him & there will be no real consequences.

 

He's made it clear that he's not going to stop talking to her for your sake, so you have a choice: accept it, or follow up on your ultimatum that it's you or her.

[carhill]

There's more to this

 

Quietly make an exit plan and then do it. Call your aunt. Request her assistance.

[curious5]

There's more to this

 

Quietly make an exit plan and then do it. Call your aunt. Request her assistance.

 

OMG I just read the post that Carhill shared. I think you might want to reach out to an oganization that helps battered/abused women and tell them your whole story.