stunned8165 Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 I dated a girl for three years who has two young children who just turned 4 and 5 in August. They have no dad in their lives. I am the only Dad they know. I raised them for three years like they were my own, my family adopted them in as if she was my wife and those were my children, I paid the bills when we decided to live together in my home, great area, grade a schools, did 90% of the laundry, took care of the cars, yard, helped cleaned the house and even taught the 5 year old girl how to write her name before kindergarten. The children were from two different fathers. She's 38 years old, I was always good to her and loyal to what I considered my family. But what does she do?.. She cheats on me with her boss. Leaves me for him. A real creep to because he does this to all the girls that work for him.. Nice huh? Is the grass always greener on the other side?... Well, you and I both know how that will turn out. Why can't people just grasp onto a good thing? Embrace what they have. But I have been in no contact for a few weks now. We have been broken up almost 5 months. Thats when she moved out into her own house while HE was helping her. I didn't know this till about a week or two after she left. And I really think I'm ok about what she has done. My problem is missing the kids. I miss them so much. I went for a sunset yesterday. Seeing the famalies out there having a good time, the kids playing and all, it really started to hit me bad. I actually teared up. I suppose It's going to be a long healing process.
Bobby289 Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 Wow she defiantly screwed up what she had and it will come back around to her. Sadly she didn't realize how it would effect her kids, I'm sure they ask about you considering you were their father figure. That is sad as you do not get any rights to see them, and you will always be reminding as kids are always around. I wish I could give you some advice but I have nothing for that, I guess it's like a break up and you will always see things that tie to the past. It will take time like any other heartbreak:(
Author stunned8165 Posted October 24, 2011 Author Posted October 24, 2011 Wow she defiantly screwed up what she had and it will come back around to her. Sadly she didn't realize how it would effect her kids, I'm sure they ask about you considering you were their father figure. That is sad as you do not get any rights to see them, and you will always be reminding as kids are always around. I wish I could give you some advice but I have nothing for that, I guess it's like a break up and you will always see things that tie to the past. It will take time like any other heartbreak:( Thanks. Yes. The last I heard about a month ago the 5 yr old girl still talks about me and misses me. As far as the ex goes, she's just a cold hearted witch. She wrote me a note saying the kids are having a hard time in a fashion as if I caused all this when she was the one that turned everything upside down.
Downtown Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 Stunned, I'm so sorry for your loss. I once lived with a woman and her 3 year old son for nearly a year. When we broke up, losing him -- whom I had started thinking of as a son -- was much harder than losing the woman (largely because I could feel anger toward her). After 7 months, she refused to allow me to visit him because, by that time, she was wanting him to bond with her new BF, whom she married. That was 30 years ago. There still isn't a year go by that I don't do a people search for him on the Internet -- even though I'm quite sure his last name was changed when she remarried. I would just like to know that he is safe and turned out okay. So I can only imagine how painful it must be for you to lose two children -- after 3 years of bonding, not just one. Take care, Stunned.
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