LynnieBear Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 and the entire loveshack boards blamed me and told me I was the problem. I think I'm gonna go celebrate now.
erika2610 Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 and the entire loveshack boards blamed me and told me I was the problem. I think I'm gonna go celebrate now. People are trying to make you realize that it is pointless to carry on this crush, as he just does.not.like.you in the way that you like him.
Author LynnieBear Posted October 24, 2011 Author Posted October 24, 2011 People are trying to make you realize that it is pointless to carry on this crush, as he just does.not.like.you in the way that you like him. Then he shouldn't keep me around as a "friend" because what a joke is that? And I shouldn't let him. It's not pointless how I feel No matter how he feels, you can't help how you feel. That's what has me irritated with these boards. Feelings for someone aren't an on and off switch and this guy has treated me like a queen and then turned around and flat out said "I don't like you like that". Even the book "He's just not that into you" said guys would rather cut off their arm than actually TELL a woman "she's just not the one". the guy has no class, but that still doesn't change the last 2 years which is only a fleeting moment in time people don't realize how short life is
erika2610 Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 Then he shouldn't keep me around as a "friend" because what a joke is that? And I shouldn't let him. It's not pointless how I feel No matter how he feels, you can't help how you feel. That's what has me irritated with these boards. Feelings for someone aren't an on and off switch and this guy has treated me like a queen and then turned around and flat out said "I don't like you like that". Even the book "He's just not that into you" said guys would rather cut off their arm than actually TELL a woman "she's just not the one". the guy has no class, but that still doesn't change the last 2 years which is only a fleeting moment in time people don't realize how short life is You have even said this man is your soulmate, and you will die alone. That's not really a healthy attitude. That it's basically either him or noone. I know how crushes can be. I had one on an old coworker for years before I realized it was pointless and I just had to move on for my own sanity. But for some reason, you refuse to move on. You find apparently every other man on the planet "disfigured", and refuse to see beyond looks. You're right. You shouldn't "let him" keep you around as a friend. It's up to you now whether you can handle No Contact or not. Or are you hoping he will wake up one day and realize that you're the perfect girl for him?
TrueColors Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 I think I'm gonna go celebrate now. What exactly are you celebrating?
Deano8888 Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 This can't be true LynnieBear, you have never even met me! But on a serious note, don't go near him with a barge pole, he will only mess you around and break your heart
BklynGuy Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 Damn! I feel for you LynnieBear. I've met a few maneaters but those have been of short duration, 6-8 months tops. 2 years, you should've seen the signs. Take it as a learning experience & move on.
KR10N Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 and the entire loveshack boards blamed me and told me I was the problem. I think I'm gonna go celebrate now. How could you not be at fault? You're hanging out w/ him, yet you know the type of person he is isn't right for you. You could easily walk away.
AHardDaysNight Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 Why are you doing this to yourself? Man, I may not be over my crush of 10 years, at least not completely, but I'm respectful enough to leave the girl alone because she wants her husband, not me! It's your inability to let go of this guy, who isn't a scholar or a gentleman, and move on to greener pastures, that makes people on this forum lose their temper with you. I saw you doing this at ENA, and I see you doing it here, too!
Mme. Chaucer Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 But … He never took advantage of you in any way! You've been chasing him, and he's been running away from you the whole time! How does this define him as a womanizer, etc.? Maybe the girls that he's interested in enough to date might have some grounds for forming such an opinion … but isn't this some guy who was in a class with you at community college? Sheesh.
erika2610 Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 But … He never took advantage of you in any way! You've been chasing him, and he's been running away from you the whole time! How does this define him as a womanizer, etc.? Maybe the girls that he's interested in enough to date might have some grounds for forming such an opinion … but isn't this some guy who was in a class with you at community college? Sheesh. She did supposedly meet him in a class. But in another thread she states she met him at work, yet in another thread she claims she doesn't or can't work.
TrueColors Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 She did supposedly meet him in a class. But in another thread she states she met him at work, yet in another thread she claims she doesn't or can't work. She did meet him in class. She also claims that she's now 24 - so she's regressed 3 years (although emotionally speaking, it's a lot more!) I don't know why she bothers trying to cover up her back story when her posts are so blatantly "hers". OP, if you're so happy with who you are then why don't you bother sticking to your original life story? Unless your original life story was the lie??
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 people don't realize how short life is Perhaps it will only be after you do, that you move on to something productive.
Jaina19 Posted October 26, 2011 Posted October 26, 2011 OP, at least if you know he's a player and a jerk, then you know not to get involved with him. There was this guy I had a major crush on for about a year, until he started bad-mouthing his girlfriend behind her back. When someone shows you their true colours, believe them, they're most likely to do the same to you if you ever got involved with them. Don't you think you deserve a better man than a jerk? I bet you've met loads of good guys but you haven't looked at them as possibilities because you still want this one guy and only him. I know the feeling of thinking only one person is your true soulmate, and nobody else will do, because I've been there, and effectively wasted my time on someone who clearly wasn't interested in me. If you move on from this guy you will find someone else. He might also become much more interested in you if you don't seem interested in him. Guys like that are only interested when you're always available, and when you pull away, they try to pull you back again because it hurts their ego that you're not interested anymore.
Author LynnieBear Posted November 3, 2011 Author Posted November 3, 2011 Jaina, he actually did bad mouth a few of his "ex's" to me!! I can't even call them ex's because he only "dated" a couple for a few weeks and this one he was with for about 3 weeks, slept with her, then dumped her over text, while sitting next to me, and told me that he "doesn't care". To the rest of you: I think you have me confused with someone else.
Author LynnieBear Posted November 4, 2011 Author Posted November 4, 2011 She did supposedly meet him in a class. But in another thread she states she met him at work, yet in another thread she claims she doesn't or can't work. I no longer work where I met him.
Author LynnieBear Posted November 4, 2011 Author Posted November 4, 2011 :eek::eek::eek: ummm I don't think you are under the qualifications to make that judgment call.... Seek professional help, OP.
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