Well.. almost. First it wasn't enough, then it was way way too much.

[OneFootOut]

So I finally went on an actual date a couple weekends back. We had a great time, laughed, went to eat, and were comfy with each other. Before this, we had been talking on the phone, texting, and chatted on the webcam. When the day ended, he dropped me home and gave me a hug and kiss. Then he came in for another hug and just held onto me a while.

 

We stood there at his car door talking in this nice embrace. He said he would text when he got home, and after a little while longer, he reluctantly left. It was wonderful. It was the first real date in the 2.5 years I have been single again.

 

So... that night he never texted. He had a long drive and had to do some things when he got home. The next day came and went and I never heard from him. I sent a text thanking him for the great day, hope he made it home safe and got some rest, etc. I kept it light & friendly. He never replied.

 

I waited a couple more days, texted again one morning, then called later that afternoon and left an upbeat msg. Never heard from him.

 

Finally, the following day, I texted and said something like - you don't seem very interested, but I'm glad to have met such a great friend (we'd talked about how we would always be friends even if we didn't click - which I thought we did)

 

About an hour after that text he phoned. He said he had been busy, and rattled off a list of things he'd been up to. So ok, I figured now that he called, maybe he was interested and we can talk once in a while. But he called back an hour later, and started calling 6-7 times a day. He never really talked about "us" but about his day, and what things he had to do and such. He is a driver, so between stops he would keep phoning.

 

Now, I have 2 young kids, housework, errands, and all that going on, so a few times, I just couldn't take his calls. When I did, the conversation was so one sided and empty, it drove me nuts. I had things I needed to be doing instead of listening to him drive.

 

Anyway... after I didn't pick up a few calls, he started calling from a blocked number (private/unavailable) I know it was him because I answered one of those calls out of frustration.. I was dealing with my sick boy and the calls just kept coming. When I answered, I heard the truck noise, but he never said anything. He hung up, and has never contacted me since.

 

My head is still spinning. It seemed like the first meeting went so well. Looking back, I still can't see anything other than we both had a great time. Why would he not contact me for so long, until I commented that I felt he wasn't interested, and then start calling too much, every single day, all day?

 

Oh well... at least it was a step in the direction of actually dating. How do you find a middle ground? Maybe even daily contact, just not every hour. Who has time for that? Had we found a middle ground, we might have planned a 2nd date.