Bobby289 Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 So I have been contemplating what to do, thanks to all the support so far everyone. My ex is keeping me on a string as she likes to be in control and make me think. I have to give her one last thing before we have no reason to be in touch anymore and I said I would give it to her sometime this week. I wrote an ultimatum for any of you who read that tread so I can stop being in pain. I want to just give her that item and just say "here, I am going to block your # so I can't respond and bring myself back down. I am going to erase pictures so if you want any I will send them to you(we went on several trips) other than that I'll just wish you a happy birthday now so I don't have to contact you then(in 2 weeks) and don't worry about contacting me on mine (a week after hers) as I won't get it since the # will be blocked. Hope you the best" Is that to harsh for someone who has been stringing me a long for the past month?
travelbug_23 Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 Not at all, she's been stringing you along, and you need to be clear about your needs right now. I had to do a similar thing last night (though very different circumstances), and it does make you feel better and more in control! Good luck, hope you see the light at the end of the tunnel soon
Author Bobby289 Posted October 24, 2011 Author Posted October 24, 2011 Thanks! yeah I hope it makes me feel better and in control for once. I think its only fair after a month of feeling like crap.
Melanie00 Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 I'm in a similar situation. But I don't know how to cut the string. I'm tired of feeling this pain everyday. I'm tired of him only being available when its convenient for him. he wants me to wait for him and hold on but all i'm feeling is rejected and hurt. We've been best friends for 4 years and together for 2.. I know I need to find some way to pull myself together because I'm tired of crying.
bbronco Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 You'll be ok Melanie (and hopefully Bobby is doing better too?)... The convenient only for him factor is sooo true! I knew my ex and dated him for the same time frame as you. It's a horrible time right now, I know. But it's so wild how your emotions are able to so rapidly fluctuate. I remember the first 2 months post break-up I would be crying at work, crying in my car driving home, crying on the couch watching TV, crying before I went to bed...my face was looking like a puffy druggy who hadn't slept in 6 months! Then the begging and pleading from my part to tell him constantly how strongly I felt about us during this time and the 2 months after. You're left with no appetite some days, and CONSTANT knots in your stomach when you reach out and await a response...sometimes you get something crappy sometimes you get nothing at all. Then you're good for 3 days after the let down, but by day 4, you're back to setting yourself up for heartbreak sending another text out lol. I can tell you at this point for me, I had a dinner (this Thursday makes it 3 weeks ago) with my ex where he told me everything I wanted to hear about getting back together...but I haven't heard from him since. Not even a Happy Thanksgiving! Last weekend I was back to crying again, over Thanksgiving I had feelings of deep emptiness, and now today, I'm feeling plain pissed. Like he better have something EPIC to say if he's gonna reach out a month after our dinner...again, if he reaches out. Right now I feel like I couldn't cry about him if I wanted to...it's a surprising feeling and I'm actually happy that I'm not crying for once! But who knows how I'll feel next week. I def. have no motivation to go out to the bar scene just yet, and I know as New Years looms ahead, and I'm def. in no mindset to celebrate...single. But we just have to stay strong!!
flitzanu Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 So I have been contemplating what to do, thanks to all the support so far everyone. My ex is keeping me on a string as she likes to be in control and make me think. I have to give her one last thing before we have no reason to be in touch anymore and I said I would give it to her sometime this week. I wrote an ultimatum for any of you who read that tread so I can stop being in pain. I want to just give her that item and just say "here, I am going to block your # so I can't respond and bring myself back down. I am going to erase pictures so if you want any I will send them to you(we went on several trips) other than that I'll just wish you a happy birthday now so I don't have to contact you then(in 2 weeks) and don't worry about contacting me on mine (a week after hers) as I won't get it since the # will be blocked. Hope you the best" Is that to harsh for someone who has been stringing me a long for the past month? honestly, i think it's too dramatic for someone being strung along. i get that you feel helpless and you've given her power, but by saying and doing the above, you're still giving her power. you telling someone you're going to ignore them SCREAMS that you want a reaction. if you want to ignore her...then ignore her. don't make a big production out of it, and certainly don't tell her.
Melanie00 Posted November 29, 2011 Posted November 29, 2011 I need to do learn how to do that.. Sometimes its easy to ignore him but other times I constantly check my phone.. I don't want to give up on him because he wants me to wait but at the same time I can't help but feel hurt because he IS stringing me along. And at any moment he can just say "i found someone new" and then i'll be there with those same pieces i've been saving and waiting for him with. Whenever I tell him how down i'm feeling, all he says is have faith and be patient... Like is so damn easy for him =/
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