tkgirl Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 Hi guys! it's been a looong time since I've been on here! so here's my dealio right now... I'm trying to get back into the dating game, decided it was about time. I signed up for an online site since I work so much and well, all the usual reasons one signs up for online dating.. just no luck meeting anyone on my own! So far it's been um.. interesting.. but good. I mean, I think it will be good.. eventually! So far I've met a few guys... online, not face to face yet except for one so far... and he's got me a little confused. We matched, emailed, talked on the phone and all that.. then we finally met. It seemed like we clicked... but looking back maybe something was off with him? After the "date" I got this really long text from him... saying he thought I was beautiful and liked my personality and wanted to see me again. Great right? But then next week or so all I would get were these random texts.. very sweet asking how my day was etc. and would I like to get together again and what we could do kind of stuff.. I would always reply sure, let's make a plan or whatever. But then nothing... all I kept getting were texts from him.. like he was afraid to pick up the phone and call me and ask me out or something. After a week or so of this I started losing interest. So fast forward to tonight... I get this weird text (again... sigh!) basically asking if I'm even interested at all and if not just let him know, that he's cool with it. So I texted back.. at this point it just was awkward... and said "not sure how to respond to that since you really never have asked me out... just sent me all these random texts. But I think it would be cool to hang out now and then as friends" I know.. the dreaded friends word, but really... how can I be interested in someone that can't pick up the phone and call me to ask me out... I mean, is that too much to ask? Am I being a total b*tch? so he just texted back... "ok, good luck on your life's journey" or something like that. So now I'm like "what just happened?" I guess my question is... since I feel like I'm so out of it now with this whole dating thing... is this normal behavior? all this texting and no phone call and no plans... like how does that work? Did he expect me to call him and make the plans? aggghhhh!! I'm meeting a new guy this week and I'm actually excited about it... but will it be the same thing with him? do guys expect girls to chase them now? any input is appreciated.. thanks!!!
neghitzbrah Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 Wait. Let's go back a few steps here. How did the actual date go? What did you mean by "it seemed like we clicked?" However, from the looks of it... he may be keeping you on the side. If he really liked you he would have no problem calling you. So that throws the idea that he is shy out the window.
Author tkgirl Posted October 24, 2011 Author Posted October 24, 2011 (edited) thanks N... yeah, he may have others he's seeing from the site and that's perfectly fine... like I said I'm meeting someone else this week from there myself. It just seemed like he was interested.. like he even told me I was the first one he met on there he was really interested in.. maybe that was a line? But why say something like that, and that he wanted to see me but never follow through? and I think the thing that bugged me the most was this all by text... like how can I gauge how he felt... or how could he take I was not interested... if he never picked up the phone to call me, to hear my voice? maybe I should have texted back and be like "yes yes I can't wait to see you!!!!" and then add a bunch of these stupid things > :bunny: texting= Edited October 24, 2011 by tkgirl
neghitzbrah Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 Lol, I have to add that the fact that you are experiencing exactly what I have went through is satisfying. Not that I am getting off seeing you go through this, but that girls go through it, too. Screw this guy. If a girl kept doing to this to, which it has happened, I'd ask them straight up 'what's the deal, hun?' But to be honest, not all guys are like that. Hell, I'm sure you have been in relationships. Look really far back when your serious relationship started. It all went smoothly, right? No games, no mindf******. Now fast forward to now. What the hell happened? Since when is texting the number 1 form of communication in dating? I hate texting. I'm too impatient for it O_O
Art_Critic Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 He thinks so much of himself that he felt you should have been chasing him...
Author tkgirl Posted October 24, 2011 Author Posted October 24, 2011 Lol, I have to add that the fact that you are experiencing exactly what I have went through is satisfying. Not that I am getting off seeing you go through this, but that girls go through it, too. Screw this guy. If a girl kept doing to this to, which it has happened, I'd ask them straight up 'what's the deal, hun?' But to be honest, not all guys are like that. Hell, I'm sure you have been in relationships. Look really far back when your serious relationship started. It all went smoothly, right? No games, no mindf******. Now fast forward to now. What the hell happened? Since when is texting the number 1 form of communication in dating? I hate texting. I'm too impatient for it O_O hey N.. no worries, misery loves company sometimes! but yeah, I'm with you on the texting thing.. like I was a little interested in this guy at first, not crazy interested.. but then when all I got were these vague random texts I got turned off.. texting is ok now and then as long as there's phone calls and face time etc. but if that's all there is, especially in the beginning... ugh, it's not for me... so next! He thinks so much of himself that he felt you should have been chasing him... hey AC... I think you may be onto something there... maybe other girls would jump at his stupid texts but not me. I've learned that chasing a guy doesn't work... and if I have to resort to that then that means he's just not that into me... done that and I won't again!
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