OliveOyl Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 I guess that goes to what alphamale was talking about. Do you really know you love someone until you have, at least metaphorically, held their hair while they vomit due to a horrible flu....that you are likely to catch because you nursed them to health? It's never all good, yet we still want a RLship. I never had to hold anyone's hair... the "bucket" works well in those circumstances. Relationships make life a lot more interesting. And fun, too.
Mme. Chaucer Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 Do you really know you love someone until you have, at least metaphorically, held their hair while they vomit due to a horrible flu....that you are likely to catch because you nursed them to health? Stuff like that is just part of life and of loving other people, including our aging parents and our children. Love includes taking care.
alphamale Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 Love includes taking care. it also includes taking care of one's self so that you may take proper care of others....
carhill Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 it also includes taking care of one's self so that you may take proper care of others.... Indeed. Balance is important. Myself, I'm at peace after a number of decades of turmoil so I'm just enjoying the quiet. No 'why's on my plate currently.
xxoo Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 I agree that love includes taking care of others, and yourself. And being taken care of by others, too. That's why we want them. Life is hard and full of struggles. It is a comfort to have a partner by your side, sharing joys and sorrows, and helping you make your way through life.
ThsAmericanLife Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 You could ask why anyone would want children... Like having children, having a 'relationship' is or can be both intensely frustrating and also very rewarding. The lives of my friends and family have been incredibly enriched by their (so-far) life long marriages. After having suffered both a divorce and the death of a spouse... Both incredibly painful experiences... I decided that am still 'happiest' when in a committed, loving relationship. I'm also quite happy when not in a relationship... I have great family and friends... but I really would prefer waking up with someone every day... sharing that walk of life along with the ups and downs... Having someone to do nice things for and vice versa. My concern... and I suspect the reason I'm still 'single' more than 5 years since the death of my fiancee... is that most people don't see any value in commitment anymore. The whole concept of multi-dating, FB, FWB is ridiculous to me... and I have no intention of 'enabling' people with poor intimacy/bonding abilities with my compliance or acceptance of their method. It has taken me awhile to learn the new 'language' of dating... and do my best to avoid people who have different goals than me that way. Long story short... If you don't know what you want, then seek out others who also don't know what they want. People who are actively looking for a committed relationship should seek out ONLY those who are also actively looking for a committed relationship. It is when the two mix that someone gets frustrated or hurt.
Nexus One Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 Why do you want a relationship? Because there's a strong feeling resonating within me that I want something meaningful. Shouldn't meeting someone worth while come way before wanting a relationship? It HAS been that way for me for a long time. But that changed, because at some point that resonating feeling started and it is amazingly strong.
norajane Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 Why do you want a relationship? The man in my life is the primary person I relate to as a woman. In other relationships, I am "daughter" or "sister" or "friend" or "employee", etc. But my guy sees me as a woman and lover, and I relate to him as a man and lover - this is a need in my life. Shouldn't meeting someone worth while come way before wanting a relationship? Not necessarily. You can know that you want a relationship, and that you want to live your life with a partner at your side, just like you might know that you want children some day even if you have not yet met the person you want to parent with.
Feelin Frisky Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 To share my existence with someone (femine and bouncy female which is my antithesis) and have a lot of laughs and be happy ever after. The end.
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