Do you think this is a nasty reply from my ex email inside...

[momto3boys]

My ex called on friday (friday is the ONLY day he called. We have caller ID.) i did not answer because i was at the mall with my kids. Once i got home it was sorta late and i was tired so i just went to bed. Saturday i did not even bother calling him back because he goes out every friday and saturday and any day he doesnt have work he is out and doesnt answer the phone. Also we talked last week and he was mean to me, so i dont even wanna talk to him. So i emailed him today to let him know i saw he called on friday and sorry i didnt get to call back, but i was busy and asked him what he wanted. Thats exactly how i said it.

 

 

Here is his response :

 

EX: Welll ive called a few times over the last week or so, it would be nice to talk to my son, if you would ever answer the damn phone

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

KEEP IN MIND I HAVE CALLER ID, HE ONLY CALLED FRIDAY, THAT IS IT!

 

 

 

 

 

My response :

ME: Sorry, i obviously did not see the calls. I will have him call you

 

 

(I JUST SAID I DIDNT SEE THE CALLS BECAUSE I DID NOT FEEL LIKE ARGUING ABOUT KNOWING HE ONLY CALLED ONCE TO TALK TO OUR SON WITHIN A WEEK OR MORE! EVERYTIME WE TALK HE IS THE WORLD BIGGEST JERK! I think it is due to his new drug addictions.)

 

 

 

 

He replied back by saying:

 

 

Its cool, I wasnt trying to be a dick I was just saying I wanted to talk to him

 

 

 

 

His response about "ive called all week, i want to talk to my son, you dont ever answer the damn phone" was being a dick, was it not?!?!?! Whats the point in him lying saying he's called a few times when i know he hasnt, i have have callers ID. Not to mention, why say you werent being a dick when you obviously were.

[Bobby289]

He has some emotions pent up it sounds like and is not trying to let them out to ruin talking to his son. Maybe he lied to make it sound like he is making more effort, never know though.

[MizHoney2U]

Next time you can just say that you will be sure to check the caller ID and when you see his number you will let the son give him a call even if it has to go to voicemail. That will let him know that you do know when he is really calling without calling him out on it.

[Zabs]

How old is your Son? If old enough, get him a little phone. My Cousin had to do that with her child's father because of his 'dickisms'!

 

Zabs xx

[momto3boys]

My son will be 3 on xmas eve. We are due to have another baby on Nov 14th. Which he never asks about, lol. I guess he figures he will ask about that baby when he is born and hears a baby crying in the back ground, lol. It's annoying because for all he knows i coulda been in the hospital having the baby. lol. He is very emotionally and mentally abusive towards me. If i dont call him or email him he gets angry. Then if i back off and not communicate with him only when he tries to communicate then he gets even more angrier. I try to keep it short and civil with him because he is so mean and then i end up just in a miserable mood for a few days after we talk and i dont need that. Plus i just dont want anything to do with him. He recently just told me he has been doing cocaine. I am really against drugs but honestly it makes sense now why things ended. Things got really bad at the end, he was always gone, lying, etc. Which now i see its because of the drugs. He gets mean when hes not on them. So i try to stay clear of him.

 

 

I responded back to the "i wasnt trying to be a dick, i just wanted to talk to him" with a simple "ok". Then he responded back saying "Just ok? Thats all you're gonna say?" And i responded with "yup" and he said "ok". I am trying to keep the communication limited to just him and my son. I will email updates once our baby is born. I dont wanna deal with him, ugh. lol

[momto3boys]

Jason- My kids do come first. The only thing i have really posted about is not to "get one up on him". I have tried to get a 3rd party perspective on certain things because i have tried to remain fair with him. I have mainly posted about if i should allow him to be there at the birth because that has been my main worry. I want to be fair about that, but also do not want to deal with him being mean to me. I also ask about how i can stay NC with him because he speaks to me like i am garbage all of the time. If you've read all my posts, its one thing after another with him. Anytime we talk i am finding out more that he has done behind my back or is doing. Which obviously makes me not want anything to do with him. I try to stay NC as best as i can and have pretty much the whole split up. So i dont understand how that is making me one up him or childish? Oh and ive asked about filing for child support while separated, because right now i am not getting the full amount i should be getting from him.

 

Sorry but i dont appreciate your comment because i come here to vent i have no one else really to vent to other than a counselor which i already have gone to about the situation but am going back to about the birth, trying to make the best decision i can for my child and myself. One that will not later down the road hurt my soon to be baby and one that i will not regret. And you really know nothing about my situation as far as my kids are concerned. They are my first priority. I do not argue with my ex, or sit around and dwell and try to do mean things to "get one up on my ex". I could careless, but i really do not understand his behavior, which i have posted about. Which a lot of other people have posted a bout. But i have not posted about his behavior anymore because i found out he has been doing drugs behind my back. Sorry that i even post anything on this site. But honestly i was looking for advice and someone to listen because its one thing after another from him. im finding out about drug use now, ptsd issues, depression (which i know goes with ptsd) and anger outbursts (again ptsd). SO i am dealing with a lot when dealing with him and i wanted advice. But yes things are hurting my feelings more than they normally would because i am pregnant and pissed because i have to deal with this when i should be happy that im about to have a baby but instead he has made it miserable for me. I dont even get the luxury of choosing about my birth without him trying to start a fight about it.

[joseph17]

Sorry for Jason not all of us here on this forum are as judgmental. I give you praise for going through your pregnancy alone and having to deal with a guy who doesn't care. Having a baby is supposed to be special and not experienced alone. That has to be really hard and having to know you have to raise another kid by yourself is hard. I raise my 3 kids alone and it is hard. My ex doesn't help me at all but you get through it. Him saying he tried to call is just a way for him to feel better and hopefully start a fight. He knows that's how he can get to you and he tried but failed.Some people will take any kind of attention they can whether good or bad. You did the right thing and next time don't talk to him. Let him leave a voice mail and call him back to talk to your son for the 1 minute a 3 year old can and then hang up. Drug addictions ruin relationships and cocaine is what ruined my marriage.