Onlyjonley Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 I'm sure this is the case for most girls but to show that I care, I like to do extra little things in a relationship, just to be nice ...especially things most guys don't enjoy doing themselves. My last bf loved this. I would pick him up a few groceries while I was at the store or fold his laundry or get a card for his mom for Mother's Day, etc. My new bf(5 months) isn't so much into this. I've offered to do such things and he says "no, that's ok. I'll do it myself." For example, I offered to help him wrap a gift for a work baby shower he has to go to and he said no. If I offer to pick him up something at the store, he'll say no and that he can get it himself. Just things like that. He hasn't had a gf before me for close to 4 years so I know he's used to doing stuff himself. But is there another reason for this?
curlygirl40 Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 To each his own I guess. I think this is my issue/concern is that it's natural for me to help out and 'mother' my friends and family. I'm a very nurturing person. But I don't want a relationship based on him thinking that I think he can't do these things himself. I don't want to take the sexy part out of what we are doing by making me look like his caretaker. If he's saying 'no thank you' then I would listen to him and show him you care in other ways. Back rubs, etc
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