curlygirl40 Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 Hello Simple question, would love to hear all of your responses. My bf is a busy guy and works all the time. He eats out a lot while he's on the run. Pretty healthy guy though, works out almost every day, etc. His refrigerator has beer, water, soda and condiments. He's going through a divorce and with his work schedule I think he just hasn't gotten into the habit of grocery shopping, cooking for himself, etc. I do a lot of cooking and I recently made a huge pot of beef stew and told him I would bring him some. I froze 2 good sized containers for him and will bring them by when we go out this week. He seemed pretty excited about this. But then I thought to myself that I don't want to find myself in that 'mothering' role. I will bring him the stew of course but is this something that I should make a habit of? Even if he seems happy about it? I'm new at this whole dating thing. I don't want to fall into that mothering role and then have him not find me sexy, etc. (As if! LOL I'm kidding). I've heard of this happening, is it true that it does? Anyway, what do you think? I'm interested in the men on this board chiming in. Is this a real risk or as long as I'm not smothering him will it just seem sweet and not mothering? We're both in our 40's in case it makes any difference in your responses. Thanks!!
norajane Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 I think he would appreciate that as a nice gesture every now and then. What might be more fun, though, is if you teach him how to cook. Sexy times in the kitchen with a bottle of wine...
alphamale Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 Anyway, what do you think? I'm interested in the men on this board chiming in. Is this a real risk or as long as I'm not smothering him will it just seem sweet and not mothering? the way to a mans heart is thru his stomach....anytime a woman brings a man food (i mean good food) it shows affection and interest. just don't do it all the time...like maybe once per month at this point in time
Feelin Frisky Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 You're right, only bring one container of stew.
alphamale Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 You're right, only bring one container of stew. right, and send the second container of stew to me FedEx overnite refridgerated...
carhill Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 Good thought; make it an exclamation point instead of a period. Translated, don't make a habit of it. Habits become expectations. He's a big boy and can take care of himself; thoughtful gifts are greatly appreciated. I would especially be careful with this part since he's still in the middle of his D. Good luck
Author curlygirl40 Posted October 24, 2011 Author Posted October 24, 2011 Thank you for your responses!! Good answers. I'll share my wicked good cooking with him sometimes but not enough to mother or for him to grow to expect it. That's my plan. Thanks again
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