John Tucker Posted October 23, 2011 Posted October 23, 2011 We met a couple weeks back; first week of October. She was pretty cute so introduced myself as did she. Found her on Facebook, and sent that request. Couple days later i write on her wall; she wrote back on mine. Eventually it led to her telling me to text her instead and she gave her # to me. So I started texting her that TUESDAY(10/4). The conversation was long and flirty. She asked me if I was familiar with the town she's from; when i said yes, she was glad and said 'good it wont be unfamiliar territory when we chill " so here am thinking; wow she's doing most of the work for me. got her number, check. wants to chill already, check. we dont have any classes together so i asked her what her sched. looked for the next day. unfortunately we couldn't meet up because she had really early morning classes from 7-10, and i took afternoon classes 12-3 that day. So I didnt see her at all that WEDNESDAY(10/5), but i got a text from her. Again we had a really long conversation; getting to know each other more and stuff. We decided to see how our sched. was for tomorrow and we agreed to meet at 1030 before our classes started. That THURSDAY(10/6) we met and ate breakfast together and chatted for about an hour. We got to know each other more - and the best thing was that it was finally in person this time. So it felt much more meaningful. Before she left to class, she told me to let her know what i was doing afterwards. When class ended I texted her. She told me her ride left early and she's looking for another way home. I asked her if I could drive her home, and she is very glad to hear it. So i meet up with her in the parking lot and i drive her home. She lived about 25 min. from campus so we had another good conversation throughout the ride. I asked her what she was going to do for the rest of the day, and she said she's probably going to the gym. So opt to not ask her if i could come inside her house. When i dropped her home, I asked her what her plan was for tomorrow (friday). she told me she doesn't know yet, but she feels she may be busy. so she told me to text her later about it. when i got home (she lives about an hour away), i got a text from her thanking me for the ride home. i tell her no problem, and ask her about friday. she said she has work. we didn't text each other too much that day - one reason was she took longer than usual to reply. So on FRIDAY(10/7) i didn't see her that day. I text her to try and start a conversation. she didn't ignore any of my texts, but she took a hell of a long time to reply. So we didn't text very much that day at all. SATURDAY(10/8) I text her saying I was going to be around the area and asked her if she was down to chill. she asked me what time, and that she has work from 12-3 (i already knew this, she told me about this earlier on thursday), and that she was going to the gym afterwards. I told her I was going to be there from 3-630. She did not text me back, so I did not text her for the remainder of that day. I felt pretty depressed that day too :/ I didnt want to seem like I was too clingy, so I decided to not text her unless she texts me first.... SUNDAY(10/9) -no text received MONDAY(10/10) - no text received TUESDAY(10/11) - no text received WEDNESDAY(10/12) - no text received THURSDAY(10/13) - no text received FRIDAY(10/14) - no text received SATURDAY(10/15) - no text received SUNDAY(10/16) - I felt really bad at this point, so I gave in. I knew I was going to see her tomorrow during a club meeting anyway so i figured i should at least text her the day before so it wouldn't be awkward when we see each other; after not communicating for awhile. So i text her about a party thats coming up this saturday and if she's interested in going. She said she didnt know yet. The conversation was pretty dry and she seemed disinterested so i didn't reply to her one word text of; ooo. MONDAY(10/17) - i knew she was going to the club meeting today. i got there early but she wasn't there yet. Started talking to a couple people. The meeting started, and i noticed she was sitting a couple seats behind me. I look at her, was bout to say hi, but she was looking away. Couple minutes later, she leaves early. That moment i was like what theeeee.................. anyway, i sort of let my anger out on her through a text. I tell her, 'cant say hi anymore smhh' she replies, 'where were you??' I reply, 'wow seriously'. the she says 'like i saw u at the meeting but i left early before it ended. Its just been a bad day please dont take offense to it'. I text back, "ok whatever". At that point I was prepared to move on. Let her go, and move on to another girl until..... WEDNESDAY(10/19) - I surprisingly get a text from her that morning before school. She asked me how i've been and stuff. I asked her what happened that was so bad on monday, and she said she didnt get much sleep, and had to attend a funeral wake for a class. I decided to give another shot at it, so I asked her if she wanted to chill tomorrow after class. She said "i might have to take the train home tomorrow otherwise i'de say yeaa". I told her I could give her a ride home. "Are you sure ? : )" she asks. I tell her yea. She says "Okayy its a plan !" THURSDAY (10/20) - I randomly bump into her in campus before my 2:00 class. she's happy to see me, gives me a hug, and a kiss to the cheek, and asks to walk her to class. so we talked for a bit on our way to her class. When we arrived at the building, she reminded me to meet her there after class at 3:15. During my class around 3:00, i'm dismissed earlier than usual. She texts me and asks am i out of class yet. I say yupp, wbu? "No I will be soon " So i jus chill waiting for 3:15..she calls me and tells me she just got out of class. So i meet her in front of the building and we walk to my car. I asked her if she was in a rush to go home, and if its alright with her, to pick my younger brother from my house and drop him to practice first. she said ok. So we had alot of catching up to do so we talked for that 30 min it took to get to my house. Pretty good conversation too; we got to know more about each other and whatnot. So when we got to my house, I told her she could come inside. When we went in, my brother wasnt home from school yet. So we were alone at my house for about 30 min. All we did was talk. So eventually my brother came home, got ready, and the three of us got in the car. As I drove my brother to practice, i talked to her as usual regardless of my brothers presence. So i dropped him at his practice, then i was on my way to drive the girl home. we talk and stuff - i told her i could bring her to either an NBA (if there is one) game or NCAA game one time. She said that'd be real cool and she'd be down for it as she hasn't seen a live college nor pro basketball game yet. I told her she could also come and watch some of my brothers games and she said she'd be interested in that also. So when we arrived at her house, she told me to make sure i text her about whats going with my life. Before she took off, I reminded her about that party on saturday. She said she probably cant go - but if she has the time, she'd let me know. FRIDAY(10/21) - I text her that morning before school. heres how it went: me: goood morninggg ! (10:23 am) her: morningg u have class today? (10:31 am) me: yea im omw to school now. wbu ? (10:33 am) her: just homee (10:48 am) me: soo sorry about yesterday. i shouldv'e dropped you home first. my fault. (10:56 am) her: Its ok next time right ? (10:57 am) me: deff (11:08 am) me: u have that interview thing today right (11:12 am) her: Yepp at 12 (11:12 am) me: good luckk. i'll hit u up lata i got this quiz to ace (11:17 am) her: kk goodluck (11:20 am) so text her again later that night.... me: how was it? (6:34 pm) her: Easyy! (6:40 pm) me: cool ! jus arrived here at wayne. check this picture out lmaoo (6:45 pm) her: ok (6:45 pm) ***sends her a picture of my brother asleep in the car******* me: u got it lol ? (7:01 pm) her: Llol too fuNny (7:22 pm) me: ha...so what you up to for tonight (7:28 pm) her: Chillenn u (8:01 pm) me: lifting luckily they got a weightroom i can use for free at this facility (8:08 pm) her: Sweet (8:50 pm) conversation was dry. notice the time gaps it took for her to reply. i decided to continue the convo after i lift.... me: u have oovoo ?? (9:58 pm) her: Noo (10:11 pm) me: facetime ? (10:16 pm) her: Nopee (10:16 pm) me: huhh i thought u got an ipad (10:18 pm) her: the ipad1 (10:20 pm) me: gotchuu. time u got class tomorrow? (10:23 pm) her: 9am (10:30 pm) me: damnnn go to sleep then (10:38 pm) her: Haha I prob should (10:49 pm) me: haa..goodnight then (10:59 pm) her: Gnitee (10:59 pm) SATURDAY (10/22) - no text sent nor received. However, this is very interesting. I noticed her Facebook status "Things are finally falling into place.... " was written write minutes before we were to meet on that Thursday(10/20). Also, her friend wrote on her wall one day later (friday) saying : "somebody finally found someone worth her time <3 im so happy". and then the girl replies "wooo for meee <3333". SUNDAY (10/23) - i text her; "hey cutie" and she replys "hello". i ask hers her "how is she" and she hasn't texted back. ----------------------------------------------------------------- so basically brief summary: everything was going real well, we were texting each other like crazy. we met up that thursday and ate breakfast together. i dropped her home later that day. then she started being funny with the texts; replying late and whatnot. I couldn't take it anymore so i stopped talking to her for a week. then i see her at the meeting this past monday in which she didn't say anything to me. so i text her 'wow cant say hi anymore'. said she was having a bad day and to not take offense to it. I tell her 'ok whatever'. And I pretty much called it quits at that point and then 2 days after that she texts me on how im doing. then we chilled that thursday and now this is happening all over again. i honestly don't know where this is headed. How do you think she feels about me? Is she just being friendly? Could I be the one she is referring to in that status? The one her friend is referring to in the wall post? Should I let her know I feel about her - as in I like her alot not only because shes cute but for who she is - or is it too soon? I appreciate the help, thanks.
brakco Posted October 23, 2011 Posted October 23, 2011 I hope this doesn't come off as too blunt but coming from another female, she's just not into you anymore. I'm sure she was at one point in time but either she lost interest after your first meeting or something else is up be it another interest or whatever. It seems like she's just too scared to tell you so she's hiding behind her phone texts to slowly drive you away. If she was really into you she wouldn't be so 'uninterested' in her texts. I'm guessing she's a bit like me, and not confrontational. I tend to do what she's doing right now when I lose interest in a guy and it's a really horrible habit that I'm trying to break.
Author John Tucker Posted October 23, 2011 Author Posted October 23, 2011 That's what I've thought too. But why would she bring me back all of sudden? why text me earlier this week if you have no more interest? why get in my car again if you have no interest? I like this a girl alot she seems really cool to be around with. But if she has no interest in me, I won't take it hard at all. I'm actually contemplating on asking her straight up; so I don't have to waste my time guessing.
thatone Posted October 23, 2011 Posted October 23, 2011 because she knows she can get an attention fix from you whenever she wants.
PlumPrincess Posted October 23, 2011 Posted October 23, 2011 I'm also going to confess here. If I'm not interested in a guy and I notice he is interested in me, I will try to avoid him if I don't want to be confrontational. If he asks me directly, I will tell him how I feel about him, but I feel very reluctant to be the one who confronts him about his feelings for me (let's be honest, it's not exactly my fault when a guy is into me and having to make the first step to talk with guy about his feelings for me ist most of the time not exactly pleasant. It's awkward and sometimes they will lash out at you and deny their feelings, making you look like a fool. And best of all, you didn't even ask for it.). So, I avoid him. I don't reply to messages or it takes me a very long time to reply. Sometimes I will feel guilty and then I'll be extra nice (I know! ) and/or contact him, because I do like him, just not the same way he likes me.
Author John Tucker Posted October 24, 2011 Author Posted October 24, 2011 should i keep trying to talk to her or should i just stop ?
OneFootOut Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 should i keep trying to talk to her or should i just stop ? Sounds to me like she is no more than an aquaintance from her side toward you. You are a dependable ride home when she doesn't feel like waiting or can't make other arrangements. But you know.. don't ask us what she thinks, ask her if she is interested in dating you, or if she is already spoken for.
Shaun-Dro Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 We met a couple weeks back; first week of October. She was pretty cute so introduced myself as did she. Found her on Facebook, and sent that request. Couple days later i write on her wall; she wrote back on mine. Eventually it led to her telling me to text her instead and she gave her # to me. So I started texting her that TUESDAY(10/4). The conversation was long and flirty. She asked me if I was familiar with the town she's from; when i said yes, she was glad and said 'good it wont be unfamiliar territory when we chill " so here am thinking; wow she's doing most of the work for me. got her number, check. wants to chill already, check. we dont have any classes together so i asked her what her sched. looked for the next day. unfortunately we couldn't meet up because she had really early morning classes from 7-10, and i took afternoon classes 12-3 that day. So I didnt see her at all that WEDNESDAY(10/5), but i got a text from her. Again we had a really long conversation; getting to know each other more and stuff. We decided to see how our sched. was for tomorrow and we agreed to meet at 1030 before our classes started. That THURSDAY(10/6) we met and ate breakfast together and chatted for about an hour. We got to know each other more - and the best thing was that it was finally in person this time. So it felt much more meaningful. Before she left to class, she told me to let her know what i was doing afterwards. When class ended I texted her. She told me her ride left early and she's looking for another way home. I asked her if I could drive her home, and she is very glad to hear it. So i meet up with her in the parking lot and i drive her home. She lived about 25 min. from campus so we had another good conversation throughout the ride. I asked her what she was going to do for the rest of the day, and she said she's probably going to the gym. So opt to not ask her if i could come inside her house. When i dropped her home, I asked her what her plan was for tomorrow (friday). she told me she doesn't know yet, but she feels she may be busy. so she told me to text her later about it. when i got home (she lives about an hour away), i got a text from her thanking me for the ride home. i tell her no problem, and ask her about friday. she said she has work. we didn't text each other too much that day - one reason was she took longer than usual to reply. So on FRIDAY(10/7) i didn't see her that day. I text her to try and start a conversation. she didn't ignore any of my texts, but she took a hell of a long time to reply. So we didn't text very much that day at all. SATURDAY(10/8) I text her saying I was going to be around the area and asked her if she was down to chill. she asked me what time, and that she has work from 12-3 (i already knew this, she told me about this earlier on thursday), and that she was going to the gym afterwards. I told her I was going to be there from 3-630. She did not text me back, so I did not text her for the remainder of that day. I felt pretty depressed that day too :/ I didnt want to seem like I was too clingy, so I decided to not text her unless she texts me first.... SUNDAY(10/9) -no text received MONDAY(10/10) - no text received TUESDAY(10/11) - no text received WEDNESDAY(10/12) - no text received THURSDAY(10/13) - no text received FRIDAY(10/14) - no text received SATURDAY(10/15) - no text received SUNDAY(10/16) - I felt really bad at this point, so I gave in. I knew I was going to see her tomorrow during a club meeting anyway so i figured i should at least text her the day before so it wouldn't be awkward when we see each other; after not communicating for awhile. So i text her about a party thats coming up this saturday and if she's interested in going. She said she didnt know yet. The conversation was pretty dry and she seemed disinterested so i didn't reply to her one word text of; ooo. MONDAY(10/17) - i knew she was going to the club meeting today. i got there early but she wasn't there yet. Started talking to a couple people. The meeting started, and i noticed she was sitting a couple seats behind me. I look at her, was bout to say hi, but she was looking away. Couple minutes later, she leaves early. That moment i was like what theeeee.................. anyway, i sort of let my anger out on her through a text. I tell her, 'cant say hi anymore smhh' she replies, 'where were you??' I reply, 'wow seriously'. the she says 'like i saw u at the meeting but i left early before it ended. Its just been a bad day please dont take offense to it'. I text back, "ok whatever". At that point I was prepared to move on. Let her go, and move on to another girl until..... WEDNESDAY(10/19) - I surprisingly get a text from her that morning before school. She asked me how i've been and stuff. I asked her what happened that was so bad on monday, and she said she didnt get much sleep, and had to attend a funeral wake for a class. I decided to give another shot at it, so I asked her if she wanted to chill tomorrow after class. She said "i might have to take the train home tomorrow otherwise i'de say yeaa". I told her I could give her a ride home. "Are you sure ? : )" she asks. I tell her yea. She says "Okayy its a plan !" THURSDAY (10/20) - I randomly bump into her in campus before my 2:00 class. she's happy to see me, gives me a hug, and a kiss to the cheek, and asks to walk her to class. so we talked for a bit on our way to her class. When we arrived at the building, she reminded me to meet her there after class at 3:15. During my class around 3:00, i'm dismissed earlier than usual. She texts me and asks am i out of class yet. I say yupp, wbu? "No I will be soon " So i jus chill waiting for 3:15..she calls me and tells me she just got out of class. So i meet her in front of the building and we walk to my car. I asked her if she was in a rush to go home, and if its alright with her, to pick my younger brother from my house and drop him to practice first. she said ok. So we had alot of catching up to do so we talked for that 30 min it took to get to my house. Pretty good conversation too; we got to know more about each other and whatnot. So when we got to my house, I told her she could come inside. When we went in, my brother wasnt home from school yet. So we were alone at my house for about 30 min. All we did was talk. So eventually my brother came home, got ready, and the three of us got in the car. As I drove my brother to practice, i talked to her as usual regardless of my brothers presence. So i dropped him at his practice, then i was on my way to drive the girl home. we talk and stuff - i told her i could bring her to either an NBA (if there is one) game or NCAA game one time. She said that'd be real cool and she'd be down for it as she hasn't seen a live college nor pro basketball game yet. I told her she could also come and watch some of my brothers games and she said she'd be interested in that also. So when we arrived at her house, she told me to make sure i text her about whats going with my life. Before she took off, I reminded her about that party on saturday. She said she probably cant go - but if she has the time, she'd let me know. FRIDAY(10/21) - I text her that morning before school. heres how it went: me: goood morninggg ! (10:23 am) her: morningg u have class today? (10:31 am) me: yea im omw to school now. wbu ? (10:33 am) her: just homee (10:48 am) me: soo sorry about yesterday. i shouldv'e dropped you home first. my fault. (10:56 am) her: Its ok next time right ? (10:57 am) me: deff (11:08 am) me: u have that interview thing today right (11:12 am) her: Yepp at 12 (11:12 am) me: good luckk. i'll hit u up lata i got this quiz to ace (11:17 am) her: kk goodluck (11:20 am) so text her again later that night.... me: how was it? (6:34 pm) her: Easyy! (6:40 pm) me: cool ! jus arrived here at wayne. check this picture out lmaoo (6:45 pm) her: ok (6:45 pm) ***sends her a picture of my brother asleep in the car******* me: u got it lol ? (7:01 pm) her: Llol too fuNny (7:22 pm) me: ha...so what you up to for tonight (7:28 pm) her: Chillenn u (8:01 pm) me: lifting luckily they got a weightroom i can use for free at this facility (8:08 pm) her: Sweet (8:50 pm) conversation was dry. notice the time gaps it took for her to reply. i decided to continue the convo after i lift.... me: u have oovoo ?? (9:58 pm) her: Noo (10:11 pm) me: facetime ? (10:16 pm) her: Nopee (10:16 pm) me: huhh i thought u got an ipad (10:18 pm) her: the ipad1 (10:20 pm) me: gotchuu. time u got class tomorrow? (10:23 pm) her: 9am (10:30 pm) me: damnnn go to sleep then (10:38 pm) her: Haha I prob should (10:49 pm) me: haa..goodnight then (10:59 pm) her: Gnitee (10:59 pm) SATURDAY (10/22) - no text sent nor received. However, this is very interesting. I noticed her Facebook status "Things are finally falling into place.... " was written write minutes before we were to meet on that Thursday(10/20). Also, her friend wrote on her wall one day later (friday) saying : "somebody finally found someone worth her time <3 im so happy". and then the girl replies "wooo for meee <3333". SUNDAY (10/23) - i text her; "hey cutie" and she replys "hello". i ask hers her "how is she" and she hasn't texted back. ----------------------------------------------------------------- so basically brief summary: everything was going real well, we were texting each other like crazy. we met up that thursday and ate breakfast together. i dropped her home later that day. then she started being funny with the texts; replying late and whatnot. I couldn't take it anymore so i stopped talking to her for a week. then i see her at the meeting this past monday in which she didn't say anything to me. so i text her 'wow cant say hi anymore'. said she was having a bad day and to not take offense to it. I tell her 'ok whatever'. And I pretty much called it quits at that point and then 2 days after that she texts me on how im doing. then we chilled that thursday and now this is happening all over again. i honestly don't know where this is headed. How do you think she feels about me? Is she just being friendly? Could I be the one she is referring to in that status? The one her friend is referring to in the wall post? Should I let her know I feel about her - as in I like her alot not only because shes cute but for who she is - or is it too soon? I appreciate the help, thanks. Next time you make a thread, please learn the skills and convenience of editing. It'll be your best friend. Now, I'm going to be blunt about this because as a man that used to be in the same boat as you until I wised up and become an *******, I did all of the same **** you did and struck out endlessly. You acted like a chump with her, period. The reason she was hot and cold with you was because she didn't know what to do with you! She was into you initially but then you became that lame ass nice guy that women despise. But she decided to give you another shot when you invited her to come in to your house for a while, among other things. I mean, wow, you and her chatted for 30 minutes and you failed to make a move on her? Are you seriously that LAME?? This girl gave you more than enough signals to get busy with her and you failed to heed those signs and now she's going to be lost forever unless in some way, through devine structures above, you get one last shot but it'll be on her terms, however. I wouldn't hold my breath. Let this be a learning lesson. Next time, make a ****ing move! Most girls these days don't even give guys the kinds of openings she gave you. Take advantage of it next time around and steer clear of the nice-guy persona! Learn to be a real man and take charge.
Author John Tucker Posted October 24, 2011 Author Posted October 24, 2011 Next time you make a thread, please learn the skills and convenience of editing. It'll be your best friend. Now, I'm going to be blunt about this because as a man that used to be in the same boat as you until I wised up and become an *******, I did all of the same **** you did and struck out endlessly. You acted like a chump with her, period. The reason she was hot and cold with you was because she didn't know what to do with you! She was into you initially but then you became that lame ass nice guy that women despise. But she decided to give you another shot when you invited her to come in to your house for a while, among other things. I mean, wow, you and her chatted for 30 minutes and you failed to make a move on her? Are you seriously that LAME?? This girl gave you more than enough signals to get busy with her and you failed to heed those signs and now she's going to be lost forever unless in some way, through devine structures above, you get one last shot but it'll be on her terms, however. I wouldn't hold my breath. Let this be a learning lesson. Next time, make a ****ing move! Most girls these days don't even give guys the kinds of openings she gave you. Take advantage of it next time around and steer clear of the nice-guy persona! Learn to be a real man and take charge. yeaa my boy had the same idea. but if she really wanted to get things going, she should of showed some signals while we were at my house. i didn't sense anything from her; which is why i didn't make a move. and for the editing part; i know. i wrote this late at night and i was getting sleepy
Onlyjonley Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 Heck no you shouldn't ask her if she has feelings for you. Take a hint and move on. It doesn't mean you did anything wrong so don't beat yourself up over it. It happens to all of us at some point.
Author John Tucker Posted October 24, 2011 Author Posted October 24, 2011 Heck no you shouldn't ask her if she has feelings for you. Take a hint and move on. It doesn't mean you did anything wrong so don't beat yourself up over it. It happens to all of us at some point. I'm not beating myself up over it...I think the title of my thread mislead you guys. I'm more confused than anything. I relationship with her would have been nice, but now I can't even be her friend. Now thats a little ****ed up on her part don't you think?
dasein Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 Make your dating life simple. 1. Meet girl and get number. 2. Ask out for a date without a bunch of FBing, texting etc. Call her on the PHONE and ask her out. 3. If she declines twice without suggesting optional times or activities move on to next. 4. If she goes out on date, make your polite sexual interest obvious by making moves on her on each and every date. 5. Keep asking her out as long as she holds your interest and as long as she keeps saying yes. Keep early dates short, light and on weeknights until YOU are sure she is worth your precious attention and prime weekend time. 6. Never tell women anything about yourself as far as feelings, hopes, dreams etc. and especially never get into long stream of consciousness chats with them (it is their nature to use whatever you say against you, keep cool, light and mostly silent), just keep asking them out. Binary. Yes or no. All the texting and getting to know you stuff tired me out reading it and probably tired you out some too. Make things binary and preserve your energy and sanity. Best wishes.
Author John Tucker Posted October 24, 2011 Author Posted October 24, 2011 if i see her in person coincidentally should i still be friendly or be an ******* to her and put her on blast ?
dasein Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 Of course be friendly, "how ya doing?" as you walk away or past to go do something else, just not solicitous.
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