me1092 Posted October 23, 2011 Posted October 23, 2011 [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]Well I need some advice[/FONT][/sIZE] [sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]Me and my girlfriend have broken up. She lives in spain and I live in the uk. We were together for 8 months and everything was perfect, suddenly she failed 2 university modules and her parents were giving her a really hard time and she says she feels that she needs to concentrate on her studies now, It was also that time of the month although I don’t think that would make this big a difference. She says that there is too much stress and I can clearly see that she is very very very stressed by things, she is a wreck. Since this stress started she hasn’t been talking to me much because its very long distance and sometimes when she is upset this really upsets her and the communication has broken down a little. She says she isn’t sure what she wants or how she feels. She isn’t sure if she wants a serious relationship now. She says she sees a future but needs to concentrate on her studies now. She has said that now we should just be friends, atleast until the stress is over and become one when she is ready. She has said I can’t wait for her as she is stressed and not sure how she will feel in a few months, she says I shouldn’t think she will come back as she doesn’t know, and that maybe she won’t want it again but she has told me that we are just being friends until we are ready and then we can start a serious relationship. She said the stress has stopped her feeling anything anymore and she is confused and needs to lose the stress and then see how she wants. She has also said she is sorry, and that I will not lose her but we should just be friends atleast until the stress is over. So this all sounds quite positive but she sometimes says things like maybe the love is over or maybe we just lived a dream and that maybe in a few months she will be ready but now she can’t. She only has about 6 months left at university before she finishes. And things just went wrong in 2 weeks, we tried for these weeks to get things back on track but I could see the stress was snowballing for her. From perfect to bad so suddenly. We never argued, never had fights, she just suddenly was overwhelmed by everything and afraid of a serious relationship. She says that it’s just defence, she thinks I am the type of guy she could marry and it’s too soon for that. It seems that she contradicts herself often but I do understand she is stressed. I am giving her a break for a week and after that we will just be friends.[/FONT][/sIZE] [sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]Should I be hopeful things might work in the future? Do you think we can be together again?[/FONT][/sIZE] [sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]I want to believe, I do really love her with all my heart but there is a lot of doubt here.[/FONT][/sIZE] [sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]I know I shouldn’t wait for her, and if things happen again then that’s great, but I literally would wait forever for her. I do think she is everything I want.[/FONT][/sIZE] [sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]I will give her all the time and space she needs, but it is hard to accept that this has happened.[/FONT][/sIZE]
Author me1092 Posted October 25, 2011 Author Posted October 25, 2011 (edited) Update well since i posted this, we tried to go from friday to friday with no contact, it was her idea, just to let her forget the pressure and start again as friends. however she contacted me on the sunday night asking how i knew a friend of hers, who is a girl. should i think nothing of this? or is it a good or bad thing? i think it must be good as if she was commited to no contact she could have asked the friend how she knew me and not emailed me! she was very mm calm and calculated in the email, she refused to give anything away, and simply said she wanted to know how i knew her, but if it was just casual interest im not sure why she would break no contact Edited October 25, 2011 by me1092
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