Kae7s04 Posted October 23, 2011 Posted October 23, 2011 My ex broke my heart a month and half ago, which i've heard is not that long for healing to take place. When it happened, I decided to move from CA to PA to live with my parents as I had no one else in CA. The past month and a half has been hard, but in the beginning, I was healing, getting over him. But now, I feel as if it has just happened all over again. I cry for days, hate life, can't bear to wake up to another day. I can't even leave the house because everything triggers memories of him! I was wondering if anyone else experienced this type of regression. And I am wondering if it's time to seek a therapist so I don't spiral out of control. Or should I just give it more time??
headsashed Posted October 23, 2011 Posted October 23, 2011 im 6 weeks into being dumped and its still like super hard,i suggest just give it time,ive had good days and really bad days but good days will become more in time.
mike588 Posted October 23, 2011 Posted October 23, 2011 My ex broke my heart a month and half ago, which i've heard is not that long for healing to take place. When it happened, I decided to move from CA to PA to live with my parents as I had no one else in CA. The past month and a half has been hard, but in the beginning, I was healing, getting over him. But now, I feel as if it has just happened all over again. I cry for days, hate life, can't bear to wake up to another day. I can't even leave the house because everything triggers memories of him! I was wondering if anyone else experienced this type of regression. And I am wondering if it's time to seek a therapist so I don't spiral out of control. Or should I just give it more time?? My now ex. dumped me 3 months ago and I have made good progress however every once and awhile I have a bad day and also feel like it just happened. Yes it's normal. There is no harm in seeing a therapist,, I did and it helped alot! You will have those triggers which remind you of him,,we all have experienced it. You need more time to heal,, easy to say yet so hard to do.Hang in there I promise you it does get better. Keep posting if you feel you need to,,, were here for you!
ken_25 Posted October 23, 2011 Posted October 23, 2011 Very normal. It's just an up and down process right now. Eventually the lows aren't as low and the highs are a little bit higher, until one day, you're just indifferent and no more real emotion is attached.
Zabs Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 Hey honey...sorry to hear you are having such a hard time... I was a bit perplexed when you said regression? Do you know what that means? The reason I ask is because it is actually a term used in therapy and it is known as a defence mechanism. Most people know the usual ones...denial, distortion, projection etc... In that sense, I will answer your question in two parts.. Regression, in the sense you feel you are going back instead of forward..well yes..that's true. But a) it is normal and b) a break up is similar to grief and grief has many stages...days when you are good..days when you are not...don't read too much into HOW you are being. It is something that will take time...just accept that and you will start to feel better. Regression in terms of therapy means behaving as a much younger person. Ie; Perhaps reverting to behaviours adopted from when you were a teen, earlier..but in a way that you wouldn't usually now. This is defensive action, usied for coping because if you act younger in your emotional ability to deal with things, you don't have the same accountability. People will treat you as something/someone MORE vulnerable..does that make sense? Any questions, please ask Zabs xx
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