Should I Ask Her Out?

[Frank13]

A couple months ago I saw this woman working at a business I was doing a job for. I only saw her for a minute but I thought she was one of the most attractive women I had ever seen. When I left, I thought she must be married. or if she wasn't, she was way out of my league, so I put her out of my mind.

 

About a week ago I had to drop something off at her business and I struck up a conversation with her. I only talked to her for a couple minutes but she told me all kinds of things about herself. I told he my name and she told me hers. Then to my surprise she said she was hoping they had more work for me so she could see me.

 

The next day I stopped in to talk to a friend who works there (and to see her). My friend was out of the office. I chatted with her for a couple of minutes and then said I had to go (I didn't want to seem clingy). She told me what hours and days she works and asked about my days off. When I told her, she said I should come down on one of my days off to say "hi".

 

I meant to go down on one of my days off, but then convinced myself I was reading more into this than was there, so I didn't go. I figured she probably already forgot about me.

 

Well wouldn't you know it, on my second day off my friend who works there called me up to tell me that she asked him if I was married.

 

So it appears she is at least interested enough to see if there might be something there. I am going to go there and see her tomorrow, but I don't know what I should do next.

 

If she simply wants to get to know me better to see if she might be interested in me, I feel it might be too soon to ask her out or to even ask for her phone number. I don't want to blow a possible chance with her because I came on too strong too soon.

 

Unfortunately, unless they have work for me (which isn't often), there isn't a reason to go down there and get to know each other on a more casual basis.

 

So what shoudl I do? Do I risk a possible chance by coming on too strong too soon, or risk no chance because I am not around enough for us to get to know each other on a more casual basis? We are both in our 40's.

[Leegh]

Since you are going to see her tomorrow, possibly you could ask her out for lunch for later in the week. It would show interest on your part, and it would be more casual than going out in the evening.