How could just seeing her name pop up on my phone ruin my day?

[Desensitized]

So my ex-fiancee called me at 4 am last night while I was sleeping, and since I've seen her name on my phone, my day hasn't been nearly as good as the prior days. Gah! Part of me wants to see what she wants, but I musn't contact her. This sucks... I'm trying to just live in the present moment, and not think about the future or the past; it was working out well for me, but it seems like seeing that she called really messed with me. Haven't been able to get her out of my mind all day and I've been trying to work on my homework -.-

 

How can I just not think about her?

[wilsonx]

Keep doing what you are doing and focusing on the present moment, it sucks it took me about 4 weeks to come out of my backslide of my ex emailing me

[EgoJoe]

The pain comes from the subconscious. It's a reminder of a life outside of what you had. Also, even if you were awke you I would hope that you have enough sense to NOT answer a phone call at 4AM.

 

Your situation is different than both Wilson and my own yet no matter what man. You have got to heal and get perspective. Keep your head up, you made a good decision by not calling back.

[mike588]

So my ex-fiancee called me at 4 am last night while I was sleeping, and since I've seen her name on my phone, my day hasn't been nearly as good as the prior days. Gah! Part of me wants to see what she wants, but I musn't contact her. This sucks... I'm trying to just live in the present moment, and not think about the future or the past; it was working out well for me, but it seems like seeing that she called really messed with me. Haven't been able to get her out of my mind all day and I've been trying to work on my homework -.-

 

How can I just not think about her?

 

It's almost impossible just not to think about a person who was/is important in our life. You will have "triggers" places the 2 of you went,, a certian song etc. that will bring back memories and pain,, it's normal.

 

Your not alone,,, I'm still dealing with "triggers" too.

 

Hang in there, time really does help!!

[Desensitized]

Keep doing what you are doing and focusing on the present moment, it sucks it took me about 4 weeks to come out of my backslide of my ex emailing me

I don't know why she would choose to contact me, though. I told her that our "chapter" together was finished the last time I saw her. If she set me back for a day, I don't know why she would choose to set herself back even more. I know I would be set back if I tried contacting her and she didn't respond.

The pain comes from the subconscious. It's a reminder of a life outside of what you had. Also, even if you were awke you I would hope that you have enough sense to NOT answer a phone call at 4AM.

What I don't understand is, why would she call me at 4 in the frickin' morning? If she wanted to talk to me, she would contact me at a time that's more appropriate.

If you really want to move on, then be strong and ignore her.

That's the plan. Been strong for 4 months, gotta keep pushing her out of my system!

When I was at your place and everytime I talked to my ex, the urge to get back together kept grewing large.

That's basically what kept happening for a couple of months, it was awful.

Your not alone,,, I'm still dealing with "triggers" too.

 

Hang in there, time really does help!!

Yeah, triggers suck! I sometimes hangout with some of my girl friends that use the same perfume as her; it sucks!

 

Thanks again, Wilsonx, EgoJoe, garyrockz, and mike588.

Edited October 23, 2011 by Desensitized
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