Bobby289 Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 I will make this short. My girlfriend and I both 24 dated for two years. We lived together for a year and were very close as we were both going though a lot of family problems. Over the couse of the relationship I let my insecurities and trust issues come out and she let her controlling trait get out of had as well. She ended it as it was the only way. After that I started to go to therapy and work on myself, I spent 2 weeks trying to talk to get her back until she started to ignore me and I let go. Two weeks after no contact and of me healing and trying to get better she texts me and said she wanted to talk so I hesitated but let her. She wanted to say sorry for ignoring me and asked how I was doing and If I could help her out sometime with housework. We had a nice talk and said we would talk when I want. That night she text me for a ride home from a bar, i was asleep and text her the next day just saying I was takin back that she went out after that talk. She said sorry if it crossed a line or something and then we talked for a bit and she somehow flipped me having the upper hand to her by bring up how my insecurities hurt her and ignored me again the rest of the day. I text her to see if we could talk about whats going on and I got a maybe... Im to the point where I can let go if I need to, I am not going to play games and I am making an effort to still talk as we both still care for each other. I'm at a loss for what to do. If I talk tonight what am I supped to say. "WTF are we doing?!" is what comes to mind. lol she always apologies when we text which is weird so Idk any input would help me
M2155 Posted October 23, 2011 Posted October 23, 2011 If you're not sure, then it's probably not right. She sounds like she is taking a lot more than she is giving and when things don't work out she's going to try to blame your issues. I just don't think you should go into a relationship with so much doubt.
EgoJoe Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 The apologies via text are her taking a passive master stance to manipulate you into a slave mentality. She's being immature and not approaching you as an equal. Try vanishing for longer than two weeks to get your head right before you talk to this broad. Good job and not picking her up from the bar when she "struck out" with other dudes. Ignore her and watch what happens. Come here for support!
lostandconfused79 Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 You have relationship issues that are not settled. Neither one of you can move on, until those issues are resolved. So even if you don't end up back together, it's still a good idea to get everything out into the open, and settle unfinished issues. If you do settle issues, and move forward with your relationship, that's okay too. What ever makes you happy, follow your heart.
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