NordicStripes Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 So, as some of you might now, the ex, who dumped me, is moving to the country I'm living in to see if he can have another shot with me. I haven't made up my mind yet, as he'll have to prove some things to me. But, I had my mum on the phone today and she said that it's up to me what I do but if I do get back together with him that he would never be welcome in her house and that if she would see him again she would give him a right piece of her mind. What to do with that? Having a relationship with someone who isn't even welcome at my mother's house isn't exactly ideal. The problem is, she feels like he'd been using me for a long time and she thinks the only reason that he wants me back is because he won't find someone else as stupid as me to take care of him the way I did. She thinks he's a disgusting little weasel...
davesterr Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 i think its stupid to think what u should do when the world ends. i think its stupid to go through all these thoughts when u havent even made up ur own mind yet to whether or not ur gonna get back together. and yet you still insist on him jumping through ur hoops and make him prove stuff which you dont even know whether or not he will do. so why stressing about something that might completely not even matter? live day by day and see see how it goes. when the time is right when the actual problem would occur. then u can ask for advice.
aerogurl87 Posted October 23, 2011 Posted October 23, 2011 I think you need to figure out what it is you want first. If you come to the conclusion that you do want him back, then you should take him back SLOWLY. Ok, so your parents hate him, that doesn't matter cause what really matters is if your gonna be happy. Now if they have legitimate reasons, then I'd listen to their advice but your mom's right in the end it's your decision you gotta live with. I didn't take my ex back cause all my friends hated him, but now I regret it. Do you wanna be living with regret 2, 5, 10, or even 30 years from now?
Kamila Posted October 23, 2011 Posted October 23, 2011 So, as some of you might now, the ex, who dumped me, is moving to the country I'm living in to see if he can have another shot with me. I haven't made up my mind yet, as he'll have to prove some things to me. But, I had my mum on the phone today and she said that it's up to me what I do but if I do get back together with him that he would never be welcome in her house and that if she would see him again she would give him a right piece of her mind. What to do with that? Having a relationship with someone who isn't even welcome at my mother's house isn't exactly ideal. The problem is, she feels like he'd been using me for a long time and she thinks the only reason that he wants me back is because he won't find someone else as stupid as me to take care of him the way I did. She thinks he's a disgusting little weasel... He dumped you, it's normal that he's not welcome at your house anymore. He dumped you ? Why ? And could he do it again ??? If my ex bf would show up at my house, man, I think some family members will just jump at him lol. I wouldn't even get the chance to get angry at him. Look if I was a family member and I would see my sister or brother being dumped by someone I would also jump at them. Really, how can someone just dump someone because xyz-reasons and then have the nerve to come back ? Breaking up is a really messy thing to do. You play with someone's emotions and that's what your mum is thinking about him right now. How dare he make you jump around and direct your life to his ? If he dumped you, then he should go away. Immediately. To respect you. And not play this stupid games of coming back. Let him deal with his insecurities alone. You're far more better than that. And your mother loves you, she wants you to be happy and not be the prey of some man. When I dumped my ex I disappeared completely out of his life, even if he didn't want it. It's the most sane thing to do. Why play this games ? It's just going to hurt more. Or you could give him the benefit of the doubt, but be prepared to be hurt all over again. That is the risk. You're the only one to judge.
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