How do you know when the differences outweigh the commonalities?

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My husband and I have been married for almost three years. We met online and lived together for a year before we got married. I am very close to my family but moved across the border to be with my husband.

 

In the beginning we flirted and had these great moments of connection all the time and became best friends.

 

Recently we have gone through some career changes and moved to a different state. It has been stressful and these types of things always make you examine yourself more.

 

We have to fight for the connection now, it doesn't come naturally anymore. Our differences in priorities and lifestyles are becoming more apparent.

 

Is this something we should fight through together? Is this something most married couples go through?