Aero Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 I had been with my ex girlfriend for just about 5 years before we had broken up a few weeks ago. I had spoken with her parents and had the engagement ring and everything was set for me to propose. We both wanted to be married together, very much so. Our families were supportive of it and the whole works.The fight was over a number of things like work and friends and than turned into just arguing about past problems that we had and past people that were in our lives. I think we were both stressed and took it out on one another. This was not the first time we had fought like that. I know that is not healthy. Anyway, she ended up taking her stuff from my house. She said not to talk to her again because this relationship was turning toxic for her and she had to move on. It was going to be so hard for her to do, but this is what she needed to do for herself. A few days went by and I had called her because things ended very badly and I wanted to clear the air. I assumed we would talk it out and work through it, but she was not having it. Basically saying the same things and she could have nothing to do with me because its to hard for her and she couldn't get passed this if I had again. To leave her alone and I did just that. I recently found out from someone that she had changed all her information including phone number so there is no way I could contact her even if I had needed to. I am devastated over this whole situation and how it all ended that way after five years together and so close to spending our lives together. It is something I think about all the time, it is even hard to get it out of my head to get sleep. I have no idea how she is or how she is coping with all of this. I assuming she is going out a lot because she had in the past when we had a small breakup about the same kind of things. And another thing I know its wrong, but I can not help thinking about her with another man. I still love her just as much as I had ever loved her. Any thoughts on the situation would be great. What her mind set may have been or is at this point. How she could go that cold turkey without talking to be besides that small bit. I still feel like I am lost over it all. It seems like a lot to just throw away. I don't feel like I had gotten closure from this.
M2155 Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 It will be impossible for you NOT to think about how she is coping, but there is no way for you to know, you can only control how you are coping. I am sure like she said that this is very hard for her and it is probably very painful, so going "cold turkey" is probably the only way she can handle it right now. No one knows what will happen, maybe she really did have cold feet if fights had been brewing in the past and finally made the decision to run; how many people go through with it only to get divorced later? Or maybe she will come back around after some time to clear her head and evaluate her future and her feelings for you. I hope you are able to do the same and take care of yourself. It will hurt like hell but things work out for the best in the end.
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