Undecidedgirl02 Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Hi, I would really appreciate your views on my situation I met someone about a month ago. We had a date (well actually a sex date). Before I met him, I was convinced I didn't want to have a relationship and preferred to keep things casual. After this first date we communicated really a lot (like 3 to 4 hours a day) and my focus on all other things disappeared. We had in the next week 5 more dates. All of them very good and although mainly focused on sex we also had some very good talks and especially laughs I knew he was kinda dating someone but it didn't seemed to be too serious and as i wasn't looking for someone , i didn't really care. On the 7th date something went wrong and I felt weird all of the sudden and left (in a decent manner). After that things really became awkward (I did offer my appologies). SO after a week of problematic conversations (where he kept contacting me, singing me songs etc but didn't want to see me), I wanted to stop the whole thing. I just wanted to enjoy his company and didn't want to have strange situations and i didn't feel like begging to see him. So we kept out of contact for a period. I seriously considered having something with someone's else and the opportunity was there, but in the end I decided not to go ahead. After about a week I asked him to if he wanted to see me; he did and an hour later I was already again in his bed. He was very kind, but his behaviours confuses me a lot. Sometimes he says things like i love you etc, but on the other hand he seems to send out some messages that he doesn't want to see me too much. I really want to be close to him right now, I'm not sure about my feelings nor about his. However as he keeps sending me so many mixed messages I'm really starting to get annoyed about it. I want the opportunity to find out in an honest way if there really can be someting between us, but now i feel i'm pressured to play games and i'm not even sure my interest isn't caused by his behaviour about being diffucult to meet me.
FitChick Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Your first mistake was sleeping with him immediately. It set the tone. You can't go back in time, so cut your losses and find someone else, having learned this lesson.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 The definition for this is "casual sex". There is no 'situation', there are no 'feelings', there is no 'us', there is no 'relationship', AND it is all fine and dandy. Just reclassify it for what it really IS, and deal only in reactions to casual sex from now on.
Feelin Frisky Posted October 23, 2011 Posted October 23, 2011 It's unclear to me. Can't you have "the talk"?
cdm369 Posted October 23, 2011 Posted October 23, 2011 Maybe the fact that he is"kinda seeing someone "is confusing you both. The talk is a good idea...what do you both want out of this?
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