nyckidd Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 (edited) My ex of 2 1/2 years broke up with me again after the relationship had gotten stale over the last month (Problems occured again that weren't solved the last time we got back together) She left me about 3 weeks ago and at first she would contact me saying she loved me so much and missed me, and how hard this was for her. So I suggested we cut all contact because I didnt want to say "love you too" meanwhile we werent together. Well we had been NC for about 2 weeks and the other night I was tempted to call so I did. We talked about the relationship and I offered a way to start again and really work on problems this time. She started crying and said she wishes I would of told her these things while we were still together. We then talked about how we missed each other so much, and eventually we met up and had sex. Yes, a bad idea indeed but not until afterwards was this realized. We did it and it was great, and we cuddled after and kissed and she kept telling me that she loved me etc. Well the next day she text me saying it was an amazing night but that she didnt think it was a good idea because it made her miserable the next day for the simple fact that she really misses my kisses, me holding her etc. She said I have to promise her that we wont do that again because its making the process much harder. She then proceeded with " Hope you have a good weekend, I will talk too you soon. I love you." So why is this girl trying so hard to move on!!! Meanwhile it seems obvious that she would love to stay with me. And what should I do about this situation? I would love to be with her again, but this back and forth stuff has to be stopped, and stopped soon. Edited October 22, 2011 by nyckidd
eleanorhurting Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 She is trying so hard to move on because she doesnt want to be with you anymore! At least not now Meanwhile you are making it extremely easy for her to have her cake and eat it too. She is no longer in a relationship with you but she still has you there hanging by a string for her to reel in whenever she wants. Dont sleep with her again! Been there, done that and trust me, dont do it!
eleanorhurting Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Im sorry if that sounded harsh. I feel like im speaking to myself 1 month ago. its so hard to move on i know how hard it is trust me im right there. But the back and forth stuff will leave you feeling like a mess. Dont do it. For you seriously.
Author nyckidd Posted October 23, 2011 Author Posted October 23, 2011 Im sorry if that sounded harsh. I feel like im speaking to myself 1 month ago. its so hard to move on i know how hard it is trust me im right there. But the back and forth stuff will leave you feeling like a mess. Dont do it. For you seriously. Yea the only thing is that I feel like if i completely shut her out then she will move on and so will I. Meanwhile I dont want that because I want to be with her again..
Author nyckidd Posted October 23, 2011 Author Posted October 23, 2011 I think she is confused and just need some time. Give her some time first and if you think things are not going your way then tell her what you really feel. Its been almost 4 weeks now since we broke up, and only 1 day NC. By time do you mean a couple of weeks NC?
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