Coupedriver Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 I dont even know how to start this letter but lets dive in.Grab a cup of joe and read on...Now one of my brothers had a relationship MANY,MANY years ago..in fact,it was because I didnt hit it off with her that they got together.The year is 1976,the summer of that year.We all hang around and play sports and such with our neighbor hood buddies down at a park close to our house.Well one day a guy I knew who worked at Ford's ( we always helped him out) had his sister move in with him for the summer to help watch his kids,yeah hes was married,and help around the house because he and his wife both worked. Well my brother and her hit it off right away and it becomes pretty serious.He kinda drifts away from all of us playing baseball and such but hey,its cool.Now things go great for 2 months for them and I can see how happy he is.Things are cruising along fine when one night his Gf comes up stairs and see his sister in law going at it with one of her brothers best friends..!! Now Mary freaks out and calls my brother and doesn't know what to do.Well the sister in law knows that Mary knows and start acting like a TOTAL bi*ch towards her and keeps trying to get her kicked out and then all hell breaks out.Mary leaves although it doesn't sit well with my brother but what else can she do..? Mary move's in with another girl close to where we live and they still try to make it work but its a strain.The girl offers Mary a well paying job if they move to Colorado.Well she kinda has to because no job here.They have a painful break up and away she goes.Well my brother is beside himself and all the talking to him in the world isnt helping.He starts off with counseling and trys to make sense of what happened.He keeps telling me that THEY both affected each others life is a way that he can't explain..he just knows...( kinda where I get THOSE feeling I post about..) Well the LDR doesnt work and soon they start lose contact BUT my brother never gives up hope.Without too many people knowing,he kinda keeps track of her.He contacts friends of hers and hears things about her life.Now this goes on for a LONG,LONG,LONG time.He knows she gets married and has 2 children but says nothing....Now up comes the first 15 years since her has had contact with her and its bothering him..STILL,after all of these years.He asked one of her GF's..( the one he stayed in contact with..) for her phone number.Now he doesn't call her right away..but just kinda stares at the number. He waited another 3 months and finally CALLS her.AT first she says she doesnt know him or never heard of him,but he takes a chance and calls a few days later and she breaks down crying and she knows who he is...they talk for like 5 days straight but he know he cant interfere because shes married.A side note here: My brother has dated all of those years and to some of the most beautiful women I have even seen in my life,but always told me.."Something is missing".Well things get pushed aside and another 10 years go by. He still wants to talk to her but her husband had found out somehow and it becomes impossible for him to contact her.WELL,another few years go by and he tries it again...NOW they talk for like 2 weeks straight but again,she says she HAPPY with her marriage and doesn't want it to break apart.So again..it ends there,or so I thought.Light contact between them goes on for almost another 10 years but now her kids are moved out and she finally tells him the marriage was TOTAL cluster bleep from the beginning.She only got married because she wanted kids. Ok,now things are getting heated up between them..contact every other week,sometimes sooner.Now hes trying to help ME out with my problems and I can see trying to juggle all of this isn't going good.I try to seek help elsewhere to get some of MY burden off of him.Now they start talking EVERYDAY..sometimes for HOURS on end.But I can see the strain its taking on him...Does he go to her..? Does he say.."Its been to long..",Which by the way seems like a BS story to me.But he cant seem to get her out of his mind. Well he comes to me and has decided to go see her.WHOA...now I am blown away but wish all the best in the world for him...HELL,how cant you..?!?!??!? Off he goes...Oh,her husband is way camping so its 4 days together for them.Now for 4 days I dont HEAR nothing and NOW I am going crazy.Well he comes back and I am sure you can guess whats going to happen next...She know her marriage is over and shes leaving him.My brother is also leaving here and moving to be with her....MY GOD.....35 years apart and they STILL found a way to be together....I wish them they VERY best for the rest of there lives and now because I am crying so much..I have to sign off for a few...
Lis007 Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 So he helped her break up her marriage? I hope he doesn't find he is a rebound and she is using him to escape her marriage and once the infatuation wears off there is no substance to their relationship. Certainly sounds like he took advantage of her situation...
Author Coupedriver Posted October 24, 2011 Author Posted October 24, 2011 She knew LONG before the second contact it was over,they had filed for divorce 3 times and several times were apart....My brother not knowing ANY of this.She never told him until the last few weeks what had been going on.Remember,she told him YEARS ago she was HAPPY,but she wasn't.Only when he was sure,and SHE was sure,they decide to do something with there lives.The substance for there relationship has with stood the test of time...But thanks for the GREAT support Lis007,you quite the downer.
Lis007 Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 He is the other man and most of us here are suffering because our relationships have fallen apart and very often its due to another man or woman and often one from the past. Sorry to be a downer... Its a reality that she won't get the chance to grieve her relationship of over 20 years with her husband... and sporadic phone communication doesn't necessarily make a relationship. Living together will be the test. Now had they connected when she was single I would possibly think amazing love story... but fact is he walked into her life knowing she was married and split up a long term marriage.
Author Coupedriver Posted October 24, 2011 Author Posted October 24, 2011 HE never was the OTHER man.He didn't decide to treat her like ****,he didn't cause her enough pain to put and end to it,her husband did that.Like I said,her marriage was over WAY before anything happened.He never came between them..THEY alone are the reason they are apart.....stop trying to throw blame on someone who had NOTHING to do with how he treated her.Nice try though..
Lis007 Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 My thoughts and prayers to the husband who will find out about the sex romp while he was away camping and comes home to a broken life because of the OTHER man who has over the years tried his best to cause friction between him and his wife and break up the marriage.
Author Coupedriver Posted October 24, 2011 Author Posted October 24, 2011 Maybe you should go chase another thread.Or better yet,stop casting judgement on people who you dont know.The husband was the one who wanted to divorce her.Man,people like you know how to BRING doom to a post.maybe you should say some of those thoughts and prayers for yourself for being so blind.Marriage was OVER LONG before ...so take your doom someplace else.
Lis007 Posted October 24, 2011 Posted October 24, 2011 Did it ever occur to you that the doom comes from a personal experience? Sorry to rain on your parade... so your brother has wrecked a long term marriage! Good on him Yahoo! This isn't a second chance its a train wreck... Cheers to your blinkered way of looking at the ultimate infidelity story!!! They both deserve each other and whatever comes there way...
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