Kyle787 Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 I hang around and meet a fair share of women, but they all end up getting really attracted to me in a non intimate way since they think I am so sweet. I admit, I am sweet and very nice. I feel this is why I've been having trouble finding someone to have a relationship with. I go to a huge school and meet on average 4 new women a week. Any advice anyone could give that I could abide by when meeting new girls and hanging with other that I met in the past?
eweezzee Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 they are attracted to you if you are meeting all these girls, you need to act cocky and very very confident like you can bang every girl in the bar. Its going to be tough in the begining becuase you may act to cocky and girls hate that. You will learn the fine line eventually. Im the same way, im a relationship type of guy i treat my gfs like gold and the girls will learn that over time but in the begining i act cocky, i act like i can buy the bar even if i cant. I act like i can bang every girl i talk to even though i know i cant. Its all about the image my man, then when i chill with a girl one on one i still act very confident but take away the cocky becuase then its just you and her and gotta focus on her. Goodluck!
Feelin Frisky Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 They are not all going to throw themselves at you so pick one at a time and show some interest. You're fortunate to attract women and they think you safe. You can still be safe and sexual. You just have to assert yourself that way. Find one you like and assert yourself. You can even tell her friends you like her and see if they'll play cupid for you. It may not go your way but word will get around in female circles that you are on the make and you're fully male. Until then, you're just one of the girls. Good luck.
Eddie Edirol Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 (edited) You have to change the way you think entirely, do you think you can do that? Since youre in school, all the women there are young and you treat them differently, to varying degrees or course. Theres ways to have the bad boy traits without actually being an a$$ whole. Treat them all like youre little sister. Dont be afraid to Tease them, poke a lil fun (not at their looks though). Dont do it all the time, but once in a while. Dont be mean, which varies depending on the personality youre dealing with, but you will learn how to walk the lines. You have to act like you dont need them. Eventually when you get enough attention, you really wont. Its all about not needing their attention, that way you can act like youre not really interested yet, which gives them the challenge to make you like them. Its all about acting like you have a booty call already lined up for you just in case anyone else doesnt work out. They smell that attitude. Dont get attached to women that you dont know or havent kissed yet. Nothing hurts like being rejected by a woman that you got attached to too soon. Dont offer to do ANYTHING for them, they have to earn your attention and favors.Make sure you dont talk about negative things about yourself. No body likes a downer. You should always be upbeat, and dont point out your flaws, or anyone elses. Dont tell them you like them, dont expose too much of your personal life to women that you havent kissed yet. Make sure you dont look like a slob, with young women, depending on how they look, style matters. Just look neat. If you talk to a group of them, dont pay too much attention to just one, make sure they all will find you charming. After a while you can isolate the one you like from the group once they all like you. Dont aks any of them for their email or FB address. Ask them for their numbers if you want to get in contact with them. if you text them or call them, and they dont call you back within a half a day, they arent interested enough. if you were charming enough to them, and they like you, they will offer their phone number, you give them yours, they will wind up calling you first. Then you know youre in. once you land the one you want, you can start the romantic stuff, but you dont go overboard. Think you can do that? Edited October 22, 2011 by Eddie Edirol
Sweetheartt Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 You have to change the way you think entirely, do you think you can do that? Since youre in school, all the women there are young and you treat them differently, to varying degrees or course. Theres ways to have the bad boy traits without actually being an a$$ whole. Treat them all like youre little sister. Dont be afraid to Tease them, poke a lil fun (not at their looks though). Dont do it all the time, but once in a while. Dont be mean, which varies depending on the personality youre dealing with, but you will learn how to walk the lines.You have to act like you dont need them. Eventually when you get enough attention, you really wont. Its all about not needing their attention, that way you can act like youre not really interested yet, which gives them the challenge to make you like them. Its all about acting like you have a booty call already lined up for you just in case anyone else doesnt work out. They smell that attitude.Dont get attached to women that you dont know or havent kissed yet. Nothing hurts like being rejected by a woman that you got attached to too soon.Dont offer to do ANYTHING for them, they have to earn your attention and favors.Make sure you dont talk about negative things about yourself. No body likes a downer. You should always be upbeat, and dont point out your flaws, or anyone elses.Dont tell them you like them, dont expose too much of your personal life to women that you havent kissed yet.Make sure you dont look like a slob, with young women, depending on how they look, style matters. Just look neat.If you talk to a group of them, dont pay too much attention to just one, make sure they all will find you charming. After a while you can isolate the one you like from the group once they all like you.Dont aks any of them for their email or FB address. Ask them for their numbers if you want to get in contact with them. if you text them or call them, and they dont call you back within a half a day, they arent interested enough. if you were charming enough to them, and they like you, they will offer their phone number, you give them yours, they will wind up calling you first. Then you know youre in.once you land the one you want, you can start the romantic stuff, but you dont go overboard. Think you can do that? Haha I agree w/ some of this stuff but not all of it. Anyway I'm already in a relationship & my bf gets so into me 1 second wanting to make out yada yada then he doesnt answer his phone all of a sudden. Im like wtf? But seriously whats w/ all these guys asking for fb addresses? I still get it from random guys in the street after talking to me for like a min or he'll ask for my email. Im like wtf??? Seriously though smh.
alphamale Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Any advice anyone could give that I could abide by when meeting new girls and hanging with other that I met in the past? yea don't be so sweet and nice, act more like a dick and be indifferent to them, be cocky and arrogant but don't go overboard
betterdeal Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Look in the mirror in the bathroom and say stuff like: "Let's get involved!" "Sexy times!" "I'm good. I'm f*cking good!" With your chest puffed out, your nostrils flared, your eyes wide and feel like you mean it. Say it several times until you feel damn good about it. Go outside, and ROAR like a lion. WAKE UP THE ANIMAL IN YOU!!! Weird, but it works
Author Kyle787 Posted October 22, 2011 Author Posted October 22, 2011 wow thanks so much. I do really need to approach things differently
Eddie Edirol Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 wow thanks so much. I do really need to approach things differently Yeah its unfortunate that this is how it works, but you have to think of the rubber band effect. When you pull back on one end, the other end has to follow eventually. Thats how you have to treat people. when you back off (when you dont need them) they come looking for you. It work in all aspects of life, when dealing with people. Within reason of course.
MikeyBe Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 wow thanks so much. I do really need to approach things differently Try not to make things too complicated, take some small steps. One thing that will make a big difference is making sure girls know that you're interested in them romantically. As you get more comfortable you can can start trying this approach with the girls that already know you and consider you a friend.
AHardDaysNight Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 As someone who also gets told that I'm sweet, but gets friendzoned, this is very helpful. Especially Eddie's advice.
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