Doona Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 My ex and I broke up a week a go (he dumped me), I was very upset for two days, I was a total mess. His reason was because we fight alot and he wants to be single and be on his own. Even though he dumped me, I was very unhappy in this relationship (we had so many issues) but I still love him, so it was still difficult to deal with the break up. Then I woke up on Monday morning feeling a bit crappy (we still live together). My friend had told me to buy some Biral pills as they would help with my anxiety. I started to take these pills and I started to go running everyday, I was ready to try anything that would make me feel better. The whole working week I was fine, I hardly cried. I really thought I was doing well. My ex works night shift, so we do not see each other even though we still live together. We are both making plans to move out, he has two places to go and I have nowhere to go at the moment. My one friend wants to get a flat with me next month (but thats not even a definite plan). On Thursday morning he kissed me, I kissed him back for a minuted but eventually pulled away as I knew it would make me feel bad. He had the day off, so he spent it dividing our stuff and getting ready to move out eventually. He was very nice to me, even giving me some of his stuff. He went out on Thursday night, so I hardly saw him when I got home from work. I was a little upset that night, but not too bad. On Friday I was a total mess again, trying to hold back the tears at work. I decided to go stay at my parents place for the weekend (they live 2 hours away). I am still very upset and crying all the time, I still take the Biral pills and go running everyday, it helps for like an hour and then I feel the same. I think I feel this way because I am starting to miss him. Im so used to not seeing him as he works night shift, so I only got to see him maybe 2 nights a week, so not seeing him for a few days us normal for me. I think it also might be him sorting out our things in our flat, it hurts to see all our stuff divided and sitting there waiting to be moved into a new place. I dont even have anywhere to go and cant afford to get a flat on my own. Oh, he also got a promotion just before he dumped me, so I feel like a real loser at the moment. All the good things are happening to him and I feel so lost and dont know what is going to happen in my life. Has anyone else gone through this?
mridul_chajilee Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Only dumpee miss dumper.But dumper never.They are just enjoying their life.
SWAN808 Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Only dumpee miss dumper.But dumper never.They are just enjoying their life. not true. I recently broke up with (dumped) my girlfriend and I miss her like hell.
mike588 Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 not true. I recently broke up with (dumped) my girlfriend and I miss her like hell. Even though I was the dumpee I often wondered if my ex. g/f misses me,, In my case (she went back to her ex) I still hope she misses how well I treated her and all the sweet things I did for her.
sheba10 Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Hey Doona, now exactly what you are going through and it sucks, your story is very similar to mine.
Isaiah Jackson Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Hey Doona, if I were you I would find something to do, you can't live your life feeling the way your feeling now its not healthy. continue to go running try and keep your mind off things that are happening, try and contact your friend and see if you guys would be able to get a flat together. If that doesn't work out you may have to go to your parents until you get you stuff together and can get a flat hope this helps
ffw Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Even though I was the dumpee I often wondered if my ex. g/f misses me,, In my case (she went back to her ex) I still hope she misses how well I treated her and all the sweet things I did for her. No intention to the change the topic. Mike, heal yourself & move on. Do you expect her to come back to you as she went back to her ex? Does it make any sense at all. If she does, I'll be wary about her character. You know it very well also that you were a rebound. Find a girl that don't play games with you. You deserve better. You are wasting your time & energy focussing on her.
Author Doona Posted October 23, 2011 Author Posted October 23, 2011 Thanks guys. I've made a plan to go see my friend today so we can make final plans to move in together, please hold thumbs for me. I really hope it workd out, I also hope we can find a pet friendly flat so I can keep my cat. I've also decided to ask my boss for an increase in my salary, I'm going to tell her my bf and I broke up and that I'm not going to be able to survive on my own. I think its a valid reason for an increase, my work load has also tripled in the last year. Let's hope every thing will work out for me, it will help me to the road of recovery
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