fenderjames Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Ok I havent heard one bloody thing in 2 months . I feel the same as I did on day 1 . I thought this was supposed to get easier -( im not bagging on anyone , just frustrated ). Any advice would be greatly appreciated . Im mad at myself for still missing her so damn much . Cheers to all
ken_25 Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 You have to understand that everyone heals at their own pace. So people can take 1 year to get over a 10 month relationship as another who was in a 2 year relationship was over it in 8 months. Two months is really not long at all. Have you been taking the right steps in trying to move on?
mike588 Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Ok I havent heard one bloody thing in 2 months . I feel the same as I did on day 1 . I thought this was supposed to get easier -( im not bagging on anyone , just frustrated ). Any advice would be greatly appreciated . Im mad at myself for still missing her so damn much . Cheers to all I'm 2 1/2 months into no contact and haven't heard anything from my ex. either and really don't expect to because she's back with her ex. and is happy. Like you I'd like to hear from her(and miss her too) but then again I don't because I'm afraid it will reopen the wound or she will tell me how happy she is when all I did was make her happy (thats what she told me 500+ times) How would you feel if she did contact you and she came across as so HAPPY and doing GREAT? I'm sorry you still feel as it's day 1 but it's just going to take time. I'm still hurting too just not as bad. Dozens of times I came so very close to emailing her just to see if she would respond,,, for her to remember me, to think about me,to miss me but I'm glad I haven't. The only advise I can give is just try to move on and not dwell on her, easier said than done I know.
Glove_slap Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 It's only been 2 months...I've been broken up with my ex-girl for a year and four months and only NOW I'm starting to forget her completely. I'm sure I have a few more months to go but it entirely depends on how long your relationship lasted and what kind of relationship it was. Statistically it takes 6 months to every year you've been together to get over an ex, these numbers however are subjective.
leoc1973 Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 Thats because you are using NC to get her back instead of getting over her. I know I know I did the same thing. Then after about month 3 I realized she wasn't coming back and I started to move on. I guess the thing that boggles our mind is that we don't understand how we can be hurting so much and they aren't at all. I think its because you feel the loss and she doesn't feel like she lost anything yet because she knows she can come back anytime she wants. I really believe the key to getting an ex back is that they have to feel the loss like we did/do. What is her situation? Does she know she can come back if she wants? or does she think she really lost you?
bizzle123 Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 I really believe the key to getting an ex back is that they have to feel the loss like we did/do. Completely agree, if they feel like they're losing out because you appear strong and yourself maybe with no contact then that's important. I think it's a control thing? People like to have control and when they feel like they havent had a say or been in control they feel upset, and that's what hurts.
Author fenderjames Posted October 22, 2011 Author Posted October 22, 2011 Thanks for responding folks . I believe ur correct . Ive been using NC in the wrong fashion . Its meant to be a way for me to get on , I know . Im really trying hard to implement NC in the correct mindset . Just feeling all shredded today . Thanks for the words of wisdom . Much respect . Cheers .
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