calla Posted October 22, 2011 Posted October 22, 2011 I really need some objective advise here on what to do. I met this guy online and from the day I saw his photo I knew he was 'my type for a relationship'. At the time, I was recovering from a broken relationship so I wasn't too keen on jumping into anything too serious. He wasn't looking for something serious either. However, we hit it off from the day we met. It was really hard not to like him . As I didn't want to scare him away and I really was not in an emotional mindset to be in a relationship, I kept my feelings under wraps. After a few weeks some stuff happened with his job and family which put him under pressure (so he said) and the communication started fizzling. By now my feelings were getting stronger by the day. It became clear that he was avoiding to contact me, so to save myself from getting hurt further, I said it was best I did not contact him again. He said he would prefer we remained in contact and just be friends. Well, he never initiated contact again. After 6 months of hardly any contact, I notified him that I will not be contacting him again. He concurred this time. Well, two years go by of no contact then bang , he sends an email apologising for the way things went last time. All signs showed he wanted us to get back together again. This time having become wiser, I was upfront and informed him that during our last relationship I developed feelings for him. He said that was great but he didn't say he had feelings for me. My dilemma is that I don't want to see this guy if it will lead nowhere as I stand to get hurt again. However, how can I find out whether I'm 'his type for a relationship' and whether he would be happy to be in a relationship with me, without asking him? I think it is too early to pose the questions to him but the more I wait, the higher the chances I will develop deep feelings for him again .
goldengirl11 Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 (edited) Hi Calla, just to say that I could very much relate to your post in parts and found it comforting, especially about wanting to express your feelings early on. I feel that I have no choice but to try and move on (from an old colleague who I was casually dating), but hope we will get another chance someday. I wish you all the best! Edited October 25, 2011 by goldengirl11 Error
Leegh Posted October 25, 2011 Posted October 25, 2011 During the two years before he contacted you again, did you think about him? If you thought about him a lot, I think you should see him again. On the other hand, if you didn't think about him much at all, I would probably not see him, why bring up a lot of past memories?
Author calla Posted October 26, 2011 Author Posted October 26, 2011 Yes he did come to my thoughts from time to time. Interestingly I thought of him the very morning of the day he wrote. I was in the process of thinking how happy I was to be single and satisfied .. and that there was only one person in the world who could change that. I never thought he would contact me but he did. I haven't met him yet but we might do so in the next couple of weeks. My emotions are on a roller coaster atm.
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